Figuring Out Fake Friends: 6 Signs That Your Friends May Be Green With Envy

July 22nd, 2012 - By Esi Mensah

Green with Envy

Do you ever wonder if a friend may be jealous of you? You wonder why they never seem happy for you or tend to criticize your every move. Well, your first intuition may be correct. Your friend might indeed be jealous of you. Unfortunately, jealousy can come in so many different forms. So exactly how do you know if they’re jealous of you without blatantly asking them if they’re jealous? Well, here are six indications of that nasty character trait that we call jealousy:

Lack of encouragement

We’ve all had those moments where you’re extremely excited to announce something new, only for you to tell your friend and their response is “Oh okay.” Not even a “That sounds great” or “Good job” from your so-called best friend. Lack of encouragement or lack of support is a sign that your friend is jealous of you. Sometimes a friend’s lack of support is so obvious that it would even make a sarcastic “Good for you” comment seem good.

Copying you or trying to upstage you

There is nothing more annoying then buying a brand new pair of designer jeans, only to discover your friend has bought the exact same pair the next day. Sometimes they’ll even take it to the next level by getting something more expensive than yours. Are they just an admirer of your style or is the green-eyed monster rearing its ugly head? Sounds like the latter…

Tears you down and sometimes pessimistic

There is nothing worse than a friend who constantly tears you down or criticizes you about everything. You come up with a new idea, and they give you every excuse in the book about why you shouldn’t be doing that. Sometimes they will even attack your character by maybe calling you a bad parent or telling you that you’re selfish. These are just a few examples, but you get the point…

Craves attention from your peers

Ever experience a friend adding a lot of your friends on Facebook to their own list? This comes after only saying hi to your friend once if they’ve even said anything at all… sounds like someone is jealous of your popularity and wants your friends for themselves.

Disappearing or shying away

Have you ever experienced trying to make plans with a friend and suddenly they’re always too busy or don’t even call you back altogether. All of a sudden they never want to hang out anymore. Sometimes when people are jealous, they would rather stay away then face the fact that they feel bad about themselves in your presence.

Doesn’t give you credit or creates excuses for your success

This type of jealousy usually occurs when you tell your friend about something and for everything thing you say, they always have a “Me too.” Sometimes they’ll even say something like “That’s so easy to get.” By diminishing what you’ve done, or drawing attention to an equal experience of their own, they will succeed in making sure they feel better about themselves. Once again, jealousy at it’s finest moment.

 

 

 

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  • Ralph Machenrou

    This is technically an article about envy.

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  • Travel_Fem

    I ended a friendship with a childhood friend recently because he has turned into the person described in your article. He won’t do anything to improve his life but will gossip about and tear others down – especially people he calls his friends. I have no time for that kind of foolishness. When you offer someone friendship and they offer you passive aggressive insults, they are not your friend. And people can grow up and grow apart.

  • http://twitter.com/Jupiters_Alien Angelina Parker ♫

    What if it’s the opposite. They aren’t envious but YOU are. Everybody that I repeatedly and repeatedly ask if they wanna hang out say no. Even when they have a day off.

  • AnalyticalThinkingPot313

    I love the advice and all. However, I do believe that sometimes, when a friend pulls back, it could mean that they are just sick and tired of being around you not because of jealousy. People do grow up and grow apart, that’s human nature.