Love To Love Ya: Can You Identify The Signs Of A Man In Love?
According to Science Daily, a study conducted by Syracuse University suggests that it takes approximately one fifth of a second to fall in love. Although falling in love may happen quickly, it seems like it takes a little longer for your brain to catch up with your heart, and even longer for your emotions to give you the nerve to finally utter the words. Women tend to be a little more vocal about their emotions than men, but if you watch closely, his actions will show you before his lips tell you that he loves you.
He’s always looking for reasons to spend time with you
Did you ever notice that he’s always looking for an excuse to be in your presence? “Wanna do lunch?” “Do you need a study buddy?” “I was in the neighborhood, I figured I’d just stop by.” Sound familiar? People who are in love look forward to spending time in the presence of their love interest and go out of their way to make time for you, sometimes when they really don’t have much time available.
He shows genuine interest in your goals and aspirations
This seems to be the generation of the go-getters. People are constantly talking about their innovative new ideas, ambitions, and aspirations to better themselves. So much so, that it is easy to tune them all out after awhile. If his face lights up brighter than yours when you talk about your big plans for your future and his enthusiasm is high, chances are he’s beaming because he’s envisioning himself in it.
He sits on the phone with you for hours on end
Men aren’t really known for sitting on the phone for extended periods of time just for the heck of it. Most of the time, some guys can barely carry on a conversation and will call expecting you to find something to talk about. But when you frequently feel like your face is going to melt due to the heat coming from your cell phone because the two of you have been burning up the phone line for hours, or you’re not even holding the phone but letting it rest on your face at some point after a long time, his feelings concerning you may be growing from “like” to “love.”
He can’t stop smiling
He’s always grinning like the Kool-Aid man when you’re around, sometimes for absolutely no reason at all. Or, better yet, you always catch him trying to fight the urge to smile or stare at you like an adorable creeper. “What are you smiling about?” you ask. “Oh, nothing,” he replies still smiling. He’s not lying. It’s not something its someone and that someone is you! Yeah girl, you’re special…*winks*
He’s goes out of his way for you
When he helps you because it’s convenient and the opportunity just happens to present itself, that’s one thing. But, when he goes completely out of his way for the sole purpose of helping you, that’s something different. You know, like spending his only day off to help you move or driving you all around town so that you can run your errands because your car is in the shop. Especially since gas is not cheap these days! But, then again, I hear love makes you do crazy things.
He makes complimenting you a habit
You’re always blushing in his presence because he constantly finds ways to shower you with flattering comments. And no, I don’t mean with words like “sexay (spelling error intended)” and “hot,” if those are the only words you’re hearing chances are he’s in lust, not love. A man in love will always want his lady to feel good about herself, so he’ll always let her know just how amazing and beautiful he thinks she is.
He shows interest in just about every aspect of your life
Where many guys aren’t interested in the details, he wants to learn all that there is to possibly know about you. He doesn’t want to know your life story just because he has a special spot in his memory bank where he likes to store trivial information, duh. He wants to know his lady like he knows himself! The things that make you laugh, cry, smile, frown, are all matters of importance to him.
He’s willing to compromise for you
He doesn’t allow you to walk all over him, but he’s willing to bend in a situation for the greater good of the relationship, it’s usually an indicator that he’s developed some more serious feelings for you. And if that isn’t proof enough…
He tells you he loves you
Okay, so not to seem like captain obvious or anything, but the number one sign that a guy has fallen in love with you is when verbally professes his love for you. Telling a person that you love them for the first time can be a pretty big step, but overcoming that nervousness and anxiety and making yourself vulnerable to the person by proclaiming your love to them is an example of what love is all about.
Jazmine Denise is a New York City based Lifestyle & Relationship writer. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise
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