Would We Still Back Barack Obama if He Were Married to a White Woman?

May 8th, 2012 - By Charing Ball

Source: thelivingiseasy.wordpress.com

I’m going to cut right to the chase and pose this question straight up: Would African-American support for President Barack Obama be the same if Michelle Obama were a white woman? Oh Snap! No she didn’t just go there? Oh, yes I did.

I am a firm believer that we must be upfront about race relations in this country instead of acting like it isn’t worthy of discussion. Folks think about and act on their prejudices every single day, so there should be no reason why we don’t talk openly and honestly about race.

With that disclaimer, last week, the blogosphere had its attention on an excerpt from a new biography about the President called, “Barack Obama: The Story,” by David Maraniss. The excerpt from the yet to be released book focuses on the relationship the President had with Genevieve Cook, a 25-year-old Australian-born (white) Park Slope elementary school teacher, whom he met will living in New York City. Through observations from her diary, we learn that they first met at an east village Christmas gathering and he wooed her back to his apartment with promises of grub. They small talked on an orange bean bag chair before moving the conversation to the bedroom.

They were together for a while, at one point living together. Yet almost immediately Cook said that she began to notice that while the “sexual warmth” was definitely present, Obama, at many times, was also distance and wary in their relationship.  On time, he confessed to Genevieve his ideal image of the perfect woman, which he described at as strong, upright and a fighter, “a black woman I keep seeing her as,” she said.

Overall, I thought the piece interesting in that we get to see a more intimate side of a young Obama, which by most accounts is considered to be calm, deliberate and hard to read by most in the press. But besides the tawdry stuff about his relationship with this particular woman, we also get to see a black man of mixed backgrounds trying to find his place in both culture and society. The reference to him carrying around and rereading a tattered copy of Ralph Ellison’s Invisible Man, a story all about black identity, I found very endearing.

Of course, not everyone felt that way. A few friends of mine on Facebook questioned the timing of the release of the excerpt and its overall agenda. Some thought that some of the passages in the book, particularly finding out about his prior relationships with white women, would further question Obama’s blackness and drill down the narrative that Obama doesn’t really have a connection to the black community. I brushed it off until I began reading similar sentiments expressed in the comment section, mostly on black sites, which too covered this story. Comments such as:

“Couldn’t make it past the second page of this rubbish.  Do better, GOP! “

 “Well from what I was told president o was a virgin before he met his Mrs. right and on top of that I also recall hearing that Mrs. O was his only girlfriend *shrugs*”

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  • SK

    Wow, I’m a young white woman, and after reading I realized a few things about myself. 1.) I probably would’ve still voted for him, but Obama would not be such an awesome guy to me. 2.) There really is still a lot of racism in television. I guess because I’m not a black woman, I didn’t notice how black women are portrayed as single mothers or unmarriable a disproportionate amount. Michelle Obama is an amazing woman from what I’ve seen. She seems very warm, has done a lot to support her husband, but she has her own projects she’s working on too. She a perfect example of a wonderful woman. The Obama family is a perfect example of a family. And they’re black. Our first lady and first family make me feel good because I don’t feel afraid that I’m subconsciously racist. I also feel like I don’t have to feel that embarrassment at being born white, because I can feel like the USA is better than all that racist crap now (not totally, but it’s still a milestone). It also make me feel that I can overcome any of my obstacles as well. I don’t care, I’ll admit it, the Obama family’s race matters to me, and I like that they are African-American. And I don’t think that’s wrong.

  • George

    He wouldn’t have made it as a candidate married to a white woman in the first place.

  • FoolishU

    People have nothing else better to do. That’s the reason the US is a mess today. Grow UP!!! Every

  • Fakeer Raheem

    The issue of whether or not to support President Obama if he were married to a white woman is really unfair, because his mother and grand-mother is/were white women.  Therefore, he is used to being in the arms of and held by a white woman; and, as the son of a white woman, who he holds in high esteem, I am surprised that he isn’t married to a white woman! 
    Bi-racial (African American) men are quite often drawn to white women for the very reasons I stated earlier. In other words, it’s natural. This argument is usually so one sided, it’s pathetic.  Seldom is the issue of ‘black’ women and ‘white’ men given the same scrutiny; and, even then, the African American women are applauded for getting someone with bank; which is another racist myth/stereotype.
    All ‘white’ men are not rich; some are as broke as any brutha/brudda man around.
    I heard a famous comedian say (about the stupidity of racism): ‘We had better learn to get along with each other and come together before it’s too late…..because we are the only ones left who speak English’.

  • Ifuaskme2

    Love how Blacks vote for President. High expectations indeed!

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/RP7XWSIVF6RGOHIP7KGPNQLNQE ann

      Your implication is insulting. No question was asked of Blacks when both candidates were white. However, because this President happens to be Black this had to be the ONLY qualifying reason for Black people to vote for him. Disgusting.

      I was for HIllary long before I was for Barack. According to your reasoning I must have only been for Hillary because she and I are both women. You’re an idiot!

      • Ifuaskme2

        So tell me thang, what was Hilary’s record before she ran for President? Face the facts. This election brought out more minorities to the voting booth than ANY election prior (Clinton included). Of course they voted for him based on color. Why? Because no one knew a damn thing about him before that election. And if they did, they didn’t care. Get off your soapbox and face the truth. I’ll be the idiot who told it like it is.

  • Wisdom

    NO. Black America (and white America) wouldn’t have backed him to the same degree had he some white woman on his arm. There would be many implications, most already mentioned in the comments. 

    I also agree its surprising that the son of a white woman married Black. That is very rare. Typically they are more comfortable with white women. After all, that’s the had that rocked the cradle and there’s heavy implications in that too.

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/RP7XWSIVF6RGOHIP7KGPNQLNQE ann

      Very nice. I haven’t heard or read that saying in a very long time: “The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world.”

      Not all Black men with white mothers marry white women, because believe it or not, not all white women are “good” mothers. If that were the case you would not have so many white kids taking guns to school and killing other students, serial killers, or sexual deviants. It pisses me off this narrative that white women are some how better parents than Black women, when the truth is financial stability is the advantage in parenting. If more Black women had the werewithal to remain home and be hands on mothers without the stress of bringing in a living wage paycheck things would turn around for Black families.

  • Guest

    Black people probably wouldn’t support him as much,but he would’ve still been elected. The mostly white electoral college got Obama into the White House, not black people. Their support helped, but it wasn’t a decisive factor.

  • Guest

    Black people probably wouldn’t support him as much,but he would’ve still been elected. The mostly white electoral college got Obama into the White House, not black people. Their support helped, but it wasn’t a decisive factor.

    • Veherndo

      The question posed was specifically about African American support NOT the mostly white electoral college. However, I will respond for both with a resounding NO. We are too biased as a society and race to find this acceptable in a President. Neither African Americans nor the white populace would have supported or elected President Obama if his wife were white. You can choose to believe otherwise and I have a nice bridge I would like to sell you along with some oceanfront property in Arizona.

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/RP7XWSIVF6RGOHIP7KGPNQLNQE ann

      What? Who are you trying to convince with your deliberate insult? You’re trying to down play the contribution of Blacks, even in this? smh. You are disgusting and it explains why you signed in as a guest and not as yourself.

      Trying to appear reasonable while slapping down any notion that our contribution was irrelevant and negligible, at best.

      There are more than 40 MILLION BLACK AMERICANS in America. Of, the Blacks that voted President Obama received 98% of the vote. Please don’t tell US that our votes did not matter.

      White people voted for him, yes, but THEY DID NOT ELECT HIM ON THEIR OWN. You self-conscious white people are always needing to seek an advantage over Blacks by slapping them down with back handed comments.

      Please go work on yourself.

  • Jus’ Sayin’

    1) Every college educated brother who went to an ivy league school has had a white woman; and usually more than 1;
    2) If he had married Ms. Cook, his life trajectory would have changed, and that person woyld not be the Barack that we now know;and to directly answer the question3) HELL TO THE NAW

  • LuckyDucky

    He would not have made it to the white house, that’s for sure.

  • Gimmeabreak78

    One of the things I admired about President Obama after having read “Dreams From My Father” is that he was very deliberate in choosing his identity because he realized that one wasn’t just handed to him.  While many people properly credit Michelle Obama for being a wonderful black woman in his life, I was also struck by how his Kenyan sister Auma, was portrayed as very wise, sophisticated, elegant, and observant in the book.  In other words, long before Barack Obama knew what a Michelle Obama was, he had already seen and been around beautiful black women whom he respected and could make him think.

    I think Barack’s story would have been entirely different if he had married a white woman.  For one thing, I don’t see him attending Jeremiah Wright’s church with a white wife.  For another thing, there is no way he would have been elected President with a white wife.  Too many black and white people would have been uncomfortable with that because it plays on long-held racial fears and resentments. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1151775473 Sharonda Penn

    That’s a really good question…..I think we all know the answer to that question.

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