A Final Word: What Drove Whitney to Bobby?

March 7th, 2012 - By MN Editor

 

source: http://www.mirror.co.uk

by Yvette Carnell

I’m not a defender of Bobby Brown. To the contrary, I’ve written derisively about his narcissism and excesses quite thoroughly in a previous piece. Bobby couldn’t manage Being Bobby Brown, so Lord knows he couldn’t manage being the rock for a star that shined as bright as Houston’s. Problem is, that’s what Whitney required. Looking back, it’s easy to understand why Houston chose Brown and what her expectations were. It’s also just as easy to understand why she thought she needed a man like Brown, what she was running away from, and what she thought she was running to.

In order to better understand Whitney’s journey, it may be beneficial to look at a star with a similar background, to fully understand how the two stories diverged. Much like Houston, Mariah Carey was also molded by a white and much older music mogul. Tommy Mottola was to Mariah Carey what Clive Davis was to Whitney Houston.
Carey spoke candidly about how controlling Mottola was during their marriage in a 2007 interview: “I have to forgive him for being so restrictive. I understand him not wanting me to go out and hang out all night, but going to a spa with friends every now and then, or doing things on my own would have made a world of difference.” One could even go so far as to speculate that Mottola married Carey as a way of taking full control over both her personal and professional life.

And one of the aspects of Carey’s personal and professional life that Mottolla kept a strong grip on was her connection to the black community. We all remember the ambiguousness that surrounded Carey’s race during the Mottola years; the videos shot in black in white, the white male love interests in her videos, Carey’s refusal to full throatedly address the issue of her race. We also remember how, after her divorce, Carey made a bee line into the arms of black culture and, eventually, Nick Cannon.

And since then, Nick Cannon has been Mariah’s biggest defender and protector. When rapper Eminem, who makes a living off being a nasty little critter, decided to spread rumors that he and Mariah had had a fling, it was Cannon who said, “I thought we got past the days where white men could spew vulgar obscenities at our beautiful queens and get away with it.”
Just as Carey would run into the arms of Nick Cannon, Houston took refuge with the bad boy of R&B, who appeared, at least from an outsider’s view, not to have allowed himself to be pushed around by anyone, not his New Edition band mates, not the media, not even producers who thought his bad boy image was over the top. This was the guy Whitney thought she was getting. He’s the man who she changed the name of her production company to Brown House Productions for.

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  • NinaBena

    I totally agree with the writer…Clive’s decision to go on with or attend the Grammy’s that night spoke volumes of his character. The party is held in the hotel while her body is still there. This is supposedly a woman he loves like a ‘daughter’ — a woman he’s known since she was 19. Record execs are not your friends. They keep personal and business separate. Whitney was his money maker. He wanted Whitney to do a comeback not for her gift of song but to make him money. He knew she was not ready to be back in that ‘world’ again — touring and possibly receiving horrible reveiws about her voice not being up to par — both emotionally and physically draining to a woman that is in 2009 fighting hard to put the pieces of her life back together and raise a teenage daughter. Chaka Khan on Piers Morgan Show called his actions ‘questionable’ and if it would have been the other way around Whitney would have not merely said ‘the music must go on’. At the same time, I believe Whitney knew this on many levels — she had to.

  • Ndiditagain

    This is a terrible article. The title has very little to do with the actual article itself. While I understand where your going you should have named this article something like Clive Davis: Friend or Foe to Whitney? Something this is all over the place.

  • http://twitter.com/figboo69 Wendy Figueroa

    Honestly people… Whitney was dating Bobby when she was 22 and he was 16… and she introe’d him into drugs.. so to the writer of this article…. please stop siding with the media on the demise of Whitney being blamed on Bobby Brown.  He went and got help she didnt…. what happened to her is sad, but not too much different than superstar mega starts of the pop culture entertainment biz… Theres been way too many before her.. and there will be more after her sorry to say.  Let her rest in peace and let Bobby try and live his.  Its hard enough to loose someone you loved and was once married too, but to have to do that publicly everyday all day… is really not fair to him as a human.  Have some compassion for his family (children).  They lost Whitney too.  

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/XRRMW2J6JPLDIKNIK2MR6B3V4A Anita

    Parents just need to do a better job of preparing their gifted daughters for stardom. The music industry will always be dominated by older white men, like any other money-making enterprise. No way around it.  That said, Whitney should have entrusted her personal life to Kevin Costner … after his divorce, of course. The guy is successful, stable and clearly admired her and would have been her rock.  

  • Nosexwithwhitepeople


    This was the guy Whitney thought she was getting. He’s the man who she changed the name of her production company to Brown House Productions for.”– MORE FOOLISHNESS!! In Whitney’s own words to Oprah, she and Bobby dated for THREE YEARS BEFORE THEY MARRIED.. She KNEW who she was marrying and in a relationship with and she LOVED him. She knew the difference between who he WAS and what the public IMAGE of him was, just as he knew who SHE was and the difference between his WIFE as a person and the celebrity image THAT CLIVE DAVIS INSISTED she maintain to her great unhappiness.    It’s so pathetic that with all of the sources that could have been used to write an ACCURATE article, it’s more of the same garbage that is always on this site and it’s sister garbage site, BOSSIP! 

  • NosexwithWhitePeople

    Urrm, THIS ARTICLE IS GARBAGE!! The first half of it is about NICK CANNON AND MARIAH CAREY, NOT about Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown. A 6th grader doing a class report could have done a MUCH BETTER JOB finding resources like INTERVIEW QUOTES FROM WHITNEY HOUSTON and those closest to her on WHY she found Bobby Brown attractive and what she liked about him. We need only watch her interview with Oprah Winfrey to find that out. Oh and how is THIS for irrelevant and untrue stupidity STANDARD on this site: ”
    Lord knows he couldn’t manage being the rock for a star that shined as bright as Houston’s. Problem is, that’s what Whitney required. ”  ___ NO EVIDENCE that Whitney Houston required Bobby to “shine as bright” as her star…. listening to her FRIENDS and FAMILY members speak, she felt that as a WIFE she should step back some and diminish her OWN CELEBRITY HOOPLAH in order to be a WIFE to her HUSBAND and attempt to have some sort of normal relationship. I don’t even want to bother with the second page of the post because page one was so IRRELEVANT. Rename it to Mariah Carey and her past and present relationship.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/OAP2N4OY5KRN2OPFODONLZROKE Irene Nicole

    The
    topic was interesting but the context was irrelevant to the topic, in my
    opinion. Reading this article was like listening to my old pastor read a
    scripture, give his title of his sermon, give us a subject then totally go into
    another direction. This article threw me off, and I don’t even think the
    question posed in the topic was (directly) 
    answered, so here is my response to the question; “What Drove Whitney to
    Bobby?”

    I
    have a one word answer to that question; Rebellion. Think about it. at the time
    that Whitney Houston married Bobby Brown, there were a slur of “Lesbian Rumors”
    that surrounded her and her then personal assistant, turned executive
    assistant, turned creative director, but infamously known as Whitney Houston’s
    Best Friend (from teenage years); Robyn Crawford.

    Being
    pressured by Clive Davis Cissy Houston and so many others that were concerned
    about Whitney Houston’s image, poor Whitney knew that deflating the rumors wouldn’t
    help her situation and she did the unthinkable by settling down and marrying
    Bad Boy Bobby Brown.

    It
    was strange to see Whitney Houston say things interviews such as: “Whose
    business is it whether I am gay or like dogs?” and she would also say: “I never
    thought about marriage. I didn’t consider it. I always thought men were full of
    s**t.” She mentions her brothers talking about how they treated women when she
    was younger. She recall them speaking of women as if they were like a joint
    because they guys [meaning men] would take a hit and pass her around. These women
    didn’t have names, they were hoes and her brothers always encouraged her not to
    be like those women so instead it turned her off….and away, completely.

    Well,
    back in those days,  all Whitney Houston
    talked about was Robyn. Look at the interviews and documentaries on her from
    the late 1980’s and early 1990’s (before she got married). She often mentioned
    Robyn and if you didn’t hear Robyn’s name you would see her. Heck, she is even
    in Whitney Houston’s; “You Give Good Love” video. “Insiders” would say that
    Whitney and Robyn would share a kiss in the studio, Whitney would look directly
    at Robyn while she sung/ recorded a song, they would hold hands on plane and limousine
    rides and they even went shopping for men’s clothes together.

    Well,
    Whitney’s mother didn’t like Robyn supposedly because Robyn was a little on the
    controlling side, dominate and she didn’t approve of Robyn and Whitney’s “friendship.”
    The straw that broke the camel’s back was when the rumors began to affect
    Whitney Houston’s credibility of being the “All American Girl,” and the best
    way to save Whitney’s image was for her to get married and start a family,
    which would dispel those rumors and maintain the public’s love and respect for
    her.

    The
    problem was that Whitney Houston already had a love.

    I
    believe Whitney Houston decided that if she had to compromise by marrying…a
    man, she would do it under her own terms and I think she married Bobby Brown as
    a means of rebellion. Since she had to do the inevitable, why not have fun with
    it? Since she was a “Good Girl” and he was a “Bad Boy,” why not settle down
    with someone that her mother and “industry father” would be disgusted with?

    When
    asked “why Bobby Brown?” in many interview back in those days, Whitney told everyone
    that: “he has the gentle sweetness about him” She would also go on to say that:
    “he is very much the man in the relationship. He takes control. He takes
    control over our relationship and I like that [about him]. “

    It was
    pretty obvious that if Whitney was going to do what others wanted her to do,
    she was still going to do it her way and I believe that is why she settled down
    with Bobby Brown.

    I also
    think Bobby Brown probably reminded her a lot of her own father. I don’t
    know  much about John Russell Houston,
    but he was definitely a Bad Boy, under his own terms and he actually liked
    Bobby Brown, go figure?

    Whitney
    Houston even mentioned to Diane Sawyer in her infamous 2002 interview that she
    was “young and rebellious.” She claimed that she didn’t have a lot of time to
    party and be a kid. She says that she started working at a young age and when
    she got older she began to rebel, trying to live out her youth, but that she
    was at a place where she was getting older and maturing.

    When
    she married Bobby Brown they were about 6 years apart, but in a way they were
    on the same level. She liked him because he didn’t put her on a pedestal like
    other guys, he didn’t treat her like a princess, he treated her like a lady and
    that is what distinguished him from other guys that she dated. She once said: “With
    Bobby, I can do a concert, go backstage. Throw on a T-shirt, a pair of jean and
    then we jump in the car and just roll!”she liked being treated like a real
    person and he mastered that with her.

    Here
    we have it. I am sure there are many other reasons why Whitney Houston married
    Bobby Brown, after all, they had “something in common,” but I think ultimately
    her rebellion towards people telling her everything to do and how to live her
    life drove her into the arms of Mr. rebellious. I believe Whitney Houston
    decided that since she couldn’t be with Robyn, she would settle down with
    someone that she knew Clive Davis and Cissy Houston wouldn’t approve of, (or
    anyone else for that matter), and in a way I believe it is that rebellion that drove
    her to being with bobby Brown, and temporarily fulfilled her, until the
    honeymoon was over and she realized that marrying Bobby Brown wouldn’t fill
    that void that was created when she ditched Robyn for Bobby….it’s such a sad
    love story.

  • Cableblogger

    If Clive Davis acted inappropriately to these two African American female stars, it was b/c he chose to. He could have done the same thing to a Caucasian girl, meaning I don’t feel that its about the color of the skin, but the person under it. I’ve met controlling and manipulative people in both races. One of the tactics a controlling person does is to cut off the victim from his or her means of support- mentally, emotionally and financially. 

    When you know who you are, color doesn’t matter.