10 Common Natural Hair Habits You Should Stop…Now

February 14, 2012  |  
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By Chrissi J

For women with natural hair, we always ask 101 questions about our hair to figure out when it will grow, to know what products work for other people, to understand how to maintain our strands and more. But in the midst of trying to learn about our heads of hair, we’re making some mistakes that in the end could be damaging and even a waste of time and money. Time to make some changes!

1. Scratching!!!!

Hair Care Stylist PSA: PLEASE do not scratch your scalp! If you suffer from itchy scalp, first identify your problem. If your scalp is itching, the PH levels of it could be off balance. Pure peppermint oil is a great treatment for that. The causes of itchy scalp vary from lack of moisture on one hand, and over moisturizing on the other, both of which you can change. If you suffer from itchy scalp because of a medical condition, ie. psoriasis or eczema, you should consult your physician immediately.

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2. Using Products That Are Too Thick/ Being an Over Moisturizing Product Collector

Using thick products on your scalp can cause build up & fungal dandruff. Thick products can also weigh you hair down and can remain in your hair until…whenever if you’re not thoroughly cleansing your scalp when you wash. Also, being a product collector is not necessary. Find a few products that work well for you and stick with them. I know when it comes to bringing out that curl pattern we can mix and pile on the products to achieve the perfect look, but make sure to avoid the scalp when doing so. Remember… less is more healthy.

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3. Edge Tugging: Cotton Wraps/Ponytails
Wearing your hair brushed back into a ponytail constantly is something I would not recommend. It’s stressful on your edges and your hair tie can cause breakage if your ponytail is too tight. Also, wearing your hair tied back with a headband or cotton scarf constantly can cause serious long-term damage to your edges as well. While these styles are cute and fairly simple, hence their appeal, refrain from wearing them all the time to avoid damage.

4. No Shampoo/Co-Washing

Co-Washing, which is using conditioner only in your hair cleansing process, can be great to do while in between shampoos. It eliminates the need to comb your hair so often and leaves your hair soft and amazingly just the right texture. I definitely recommend it. BUT, with time, our hair accumulates dirt from outside and build-up from products. Too much dirt or build-up can lead to an offensive smell, breakage, and/or malassezia (a fungal-type dandruff that develops in the presence of lipids, oils, waxes, etc.).

5. Product Grouping/Hair Typing
You are a special, one of a kind type of person. No one else is made like you, nor are you like anyone else. To think a product will work for you like it does for someone else is silly.  A lot of people have several different textures of hair on their head.  Find what works for you and stick with it. What works for you may change as the seasons change, and as your hair grows, or even when you cut it. However, this is why it’s important for you to bond with and get to know your hair, or find a regular stylist to work with that can help you understand and get acquainted with it.

6. Using Products w Alcohol
Using products with alcohol will dry your hair out. Period. The other ingredients mixed in will make you think that it’s nice in the moment, but the feeling is only temporary and you will need to continually apply the product to maintain those results. There are plenty of products that do not contain alcohol though, try those!

7. Not Moisturizing the Ends of Hair
I cannot stress this enough. Not moisturizing the ends of your hair is the #1 cause of breakage. Not moisturizing the ends of your hair is the #1 reason why you think your hair isn’t growing. Moisturizing the ends of your hair is just as important as moisturizing your scalp, and for some people, even more important so your hair doesn’t consistently look, feel and be dry. Do this!

8. “Protective Styling”: Wrapped & Weaved edge
Often times I’ve had clients talk to me about the protective styling they do. Be careful about receiving “protective styling” advice from YouTube and other non-professionals (remember how your hair is different and works different from others?). Yes, the cold air of the winter can dry your hair out and require extra moisturizing, but be careful that your protective styles are not causing damage. For example, wrapping your hair up in a scarf everyday can inhibit growth. Your hair is like a plant. It needs air and sunshine to grow. Also, wrapping your hair in cotton scarves can dry your hair out and even tug at your delicate edges, causing thinning and breakage–the opposite of what you’re trying to achieve.

Speaking of thinning and breaking edges, another “protective style” I’ve often heard about and seen is the idea of keeping your hair braided under a sew-in weave. I do not completely oppose this, but rocking a sew-in becomes unhealthy when you wear it longer than 6-8 weeks. Another MAJOR mistake made with sew-ins is weaving up your edges. Braiding and sewing extensions onto your edges is something very stressing on your edges. It can cause major thinning and breakage to your edges. So I’ll say this: Let your hair breathe! Don’t wrap your hair in cotton and LEAVE OUT YOUR EDGES when weaving your hair!

9. Too much Press & Curl/ Heat
Pressing your hair too often, or applying too much heat can reduce your natural curl pattern and make your hair look a bit stringy in some places. Applying too much heat near the scalp can cause burning and scabbing, and applying heat while wet can cause breakage. I would like to place extra emphasis on the reality that too much heat can and will reduce your natural curl pattern. I’d recommend that you only press your hair for special occasions & not for everyday wear unless having your hair pressed straight is how you choose to wear it constantly.

10. Not Loving your Natural Curls
You are you. Naturally… for a reason. Love it! Embrace it! Quit trying to invent a curl pattern that you don’t have, and work with the one you do. Look in the mirror everyday and learn to love everything about you. Put your hands in your hair,  feel it, love it, think of reasons why your look works for you! All in all, be positive, learn to style it yourself sometimes, and learn to love everything about you!

Chrissi J is a hair-care specialist currently based in New York City, specializing in creative natural hairstyling and overall hair care. She is the originator of the Keepin’ It Kinky Campaign. Check out her work and videos at Keepin’ It Kinky and through her YouTube page.

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  • Nadegeous

    So much anger in here!

    I had braids most of the time, or relaxed hair. It’s just so much easier and cheaper to handle, and since I’ve always taken care of my hair myself, I always went for the easiest option. Since I went natural I have to dedicate a whole day of my week to deep condition and do my twists…I feel like I’ll give up soon, I actually have a life to live! Plus it’s so expensive, the money spent on taking care of my natural hair is much more than what I expected! But I said I was going to hold on for a year and see how long my hair would grow! Started just below shoulders, and hope to get to bra strap!

    I still don’t get why people get angry about what others do…this is way beyond my understanding! There’s nothing wrong with being natural, wearing a wig, a weave, putting a relaxer…as long as you take care of your hair and that your hairstyle looks good, I really don’t see the problem and I won’t judge…No need to go on internet and insult people about their decision! Jeez! In the end, it’s how YOU feel about your hair that matters, whatever what other people think or say, they have an issue with themselves. Just let them be.

  • Chandler

    Why are you so mad? The fact that you have been natural since day one should put you in a place of authority to embrace and teach those who are “just catching up” as you say. Why are you so bitter?

  • I just wanna know what is a good conditioner, that affordable for females like me who have mixed hair( black/Latina mix)? For when I style straight or wear my natrual curls?

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  • i have been wearing my hair natural for at least six years and i am still having trouble finding the right products.

  • Moniqlang

    Hurt people, hurt people..E is hurting, because she feels a need to lash out at others for no apparent reason. I loved myself when I rocked perms, weaves, braids,etc. I can definitely afford it (even in the recession), but it was just a decision I made because my hair was being damaged by perms. If I want to straighten my hair in its natural state, wear braids or weaves I will and plan to. I have definitely spent more $$$ on products with my hair in its natural state…E , if your mom taught you to love your hair; I’m sure she taught you to love your neighbor and learn to forgive…Life is too short to arguing over hair..to perm or not to perm…we should be more concerned with inequality, world hunger, homelessness, and pulling together as a people…

  • The HPDL

    Great Post!! Thanks! 
    Check out my post: THE H.P.D.L: I Love My Hair http://www.thehpdl.com/2011/11/i-love-my-hair.html?spref=tw

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  • Workwitwhatugot

    The worst type of chemical is not loving one another. Many sister have many reason for going natural. My personal reason is to see just what my hair would look like in it’s natural state. I too was a victim of perms at a very young age. I don’t think it was because my mother did not embrace my hair, it that she did not know what to with it. I think that there are greater things in this world at are around us that we should be fighting for, but fighting with each other is not one of them. Embrace sisters, love your hair, but most important let’s love each other. Peace and Blessings!!!

  • Maha

    i’ve been following the natural “trend” for 7 years now…

  • curlynerd

    wow thought natural nazis weren’t real till I read E crazy ass. Some of our mother didn’t know how to do their hair when they were our age much less when they had children themselves. My mom did the best she could. And we all hated it, the weekly tears cause your moms detangling methods weren’t quite as gentle as hoped,  you driving your mother crazy by not sitting still,using luster pink oil by the gallon, and getting headaches cause your tried to do a somersault with “knockers” round your braids, hot combs on holidays. Me and my sis begged for that perm! Yeah perms were expensive till I got to school and realized I could do that mess myself. A $7 box of perm, a bottle of conditioner a shampoo, and a cheap oil was all I used on my permed hair, and wayyyyyyyyy less of it. My hair looked fine. I spent way less on hair products then, than I do now. Don’t get me wrong I LOVE my curly fro and am never going back. Its more expensive and considerably more time consuming being but the time/cash spent is worth it.

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  • mplo

    I have extremely naturally curly hair, which I keep long, and like to wear it in a number of different ways, depending on the frame of mind that I’m in.  I don’t set it in rollers, nor do I use a hair dryer to dry it, but I do use both  rinse-out and leave-in conditioners to keep it a bit more under control, as it can get wild, particularly in humid weather.  

    Plus, I’m in my early sixties, to boot, and have no intention of cutting my hair short, either.

  • kia

    hair beef… (below)
    lol

    • Tazeypooh02

      Lol @ how serious people are about hair. It’s just hair! Nobody’s cancer is going to be cured because you’re natural or have a perm. Lighten up ladies, hair should be fun.

      • 4B

        You couldn’t have said it any better.

      • Msmykimoto2u

        Thank you!

  • It’s not a trend. I went natural because times got hard lol. Also the last perm i got ( i let a salon do it) my hair broke off so bad i had to cut my hair off. Also i don’t agree with the head band comment. I wear heads a lot and never had a problem with breakage. But it differ from person to person.

  • flatlinecity

    Is it just me or was the Author throwing a little shade at youtubers? I think a lot of these professional stylist hate the youtube trend because people are wising up, being inspired and taking care of their own hair instead of paying someone else to do it. Cut out that middle man:)

    • ChrissiJ

      No shade. 
      I’m loving the rise of natural-hair people on youtube. Yall need to learn how to do your own hair… I definitely won’t be doing hair forever. I’m just saying be careful. There’s a lot of information out there and it’s not all correct. Check out my youtube http://www.youtube.com/ImKeepinItKinky

      • flatlinecity

        I can respect that. 

  • Well I’ve been natural for over 9.5 years and I have yet to fall into any type of “trend” when it comes to products or styles. This is what I chose therefore I am choosing to maintain my healthy hair. These were good things to let some naturals or others thinking about going natural know. Being natural is not a trend it’s a decision that you chose to make hopefully for life so you will maintain healthy hair. I am not against perms either. I stopped getting those in 2002 but you have to decide how you want to wear your hair. Not what’s perceived as “trendy.”

  • Msmykimoto2u

    Nice article! im having so much trouble finding products that keep my hair moisturied for more than a few hours a day. Im really taking care of it and its grown alot since i cut it in october but it drinks up so much moisture so quick im getting fustrated! Does anyone have any suggestions? And also what are some good protective styles for a TWA?

  • Jaimee Pounds

    Natural is a trend!

    • Native Gear

      A good trend indeed….

    • Msmykimoto2u

      No it isnt. Natural hair is what grows from our head how is it a trend? If anything is, its weaves and wigs

    • E.

      thats sad because ITS NOT SUPPOSTA BE A TREND. ITS YOUR LIFE.

      • Elite_Lady

        Hair is not supposed to be your life. I have been natural my whole life & I can say it is not my life. I don’t think “I can’t have this sonic slush b/c it’s not natural.” To say it is your life means it takes precedence before God & your family. Truly not my life. I love my hair but I also understand it’s a choice, just like most of life. 

        • E.

          Miss me with that. You know what I mean.

          NATURAL LIVING IS SUPPOSTA BE THE ONLY LIFESTYLE YOU HAVE.
          Anything else, and you get cancer of the SOMETHING.

          And just like anything else… there are wrong and right choices. Perming your hair is wrong. On several levels. I want people to make the right choice.

  • Prissy

    I think the ONLY thing I HATE about natural people is when they color their hair and their hair looks DRY as all holy heck… yet they tell me who is relaxed with HEALTHIER hair that I need to stop putting chemicals in my hair. BIH a PERMANENT dye is a chemical.. Or did you forget that?

    • I agree! I’m natural and I still use permanent and semi-permanent hair dye in my hair but my hair never looks dry afterwards. They just forget the important step to deep condition. But I don’t make a mtn outta a mole hill about what other people do with THEIR HAIR!

      • Prissy

        RIGHT !!! That’s the message!!!! 😉 

  • What about silk wraps?

  • You should have explained to use a carrier oil when using pure peppermint oil to the scalp, and these tips are great for anybody.  Not quite sure why its labeled as being for natural girls.  Transitioning, Relaxed, Texturized…everyone can benefit from these.

    BTW, I really hate the format of the articles here, having to click thru the list rather than it all being on one page.  Most times, I quit after the second or third page.  Just a suggestion.

    • Msmykimoto2u

      LOL I thought I was the only one who hated clicking through all of those pages =) But yes you must dilute peppermint oil with a carrier oil otherwise your scalp will probably be on fire.

  • Blackbutterfly117

    Thanks for the reminders…great article.

  • The alcohol comment is misleading as there are many alcohols, some that are fatty alcohols and will be great for your hair.  Example, cetyl alochol is a fatty alcohol and can be found in most conditioners.  In order to eliminate alcohols, you have to know which ones are considered drying alcohols. 

  • The alcohol comment is misleading as there are many alcohols, some that are fatty alcohols and will be great for your hair.  Example, cetyl alochol is a fatty alcohol and can be found in most conditioners.  In order to eliminate alcohols, you have to know which ones are considered drying alcohols.

    • Msmykimoto2u

      Agreed

  • E.

    i see its ‘trendy’ to be a natural girl now. hrrm.
    thanks for the tips. nice article.

    • NoMysteryThere

      So if a black woman wears her hair naturally – its because she trendy but if a black woman rocks a perm or a weave she’s a sellout and self-hating. A black woman can’t win for trying….I swear. SMH

      • Native Gear

        Exactly. Your natural hair is the hair G*d gave you. How exactly can it be a trend?

      • Caremassagee

        Youve won by speaking out. Now that ive been a “trendy” natural for  10 years or more im going to rock it because its me and an exspression of my inner being, because someone categorized me. Trendy may be all they now to say. ( there i go benefiting of the dought) 🙂

        • caree

          i ment not because

          • E.

            You were all rocking weaves and perms 5 years ago and making fun of girls like myself who have been natural our whole life. Now that the recession has hit and youre forced to deal with the natural state of your hair, NOW you want to start claiming natural like you were into it.

            Please. Please stop lying to yourselves.
            Some of us have been natural from day one. The rest of you basic human beings are just catching up. Or getting that mental slavery out your sad little heads.

            • Pure_igenue

              Seems to me you are generalizing. Did you ever stop and think that most women are realizing that perms do more harm than good on their hair. Embrace the fact that more women are going natural…trend or not .

              • E.

                yeah. if you didnt realize that putting harsh chemicals on your hair, whether it be perm or texturizer or even HAIR DYE… does expose you to cancer causing damage to your skin and body, then your parents failed you or you failed yourself.

                “most women are realizing.” this is a joke right? so now youre telling me that this permed out culture and mentally enslaved train of thought was widespread? hope not.

                I’ve got classic, thick, 4B hair. The kind you typical permed out broads made fun of other girls for having. Except my parents taught me to LOVE my hair and how to handle it, from BIRTH. They didnt throw chemicals at it hoping it would be better. Some of us have NEVER colored or otherwise chemically treated our hair or bodies. EVER.

                So why are embracing this LIFESTYLE, not TREND… all of a sudden? Well like I said, it has nothing to do with being natural or living a wholesome life. You just got tired of spending obnoxious amounts of money to maintain a westernized idea of beauty. Those expensive weaves/extensions and perm touchups were out the question when you all lost your jobs. Its not that you were into exploring a natural way of living or doing your hair. Youre doing it out of necessity. And frankly its pathetic. 

                You should have BEEN loving your hair in its natural state. There should have never been a chemical or track of someone elses dead indian hair in your head. And Im serious about it. Welcome to how you should have been living in the first place.

                • Anon1234

                  What? Going natural has been way more expensive for me than when I had relaxed hair. If it was down to cost and not my love for my hair, I will be back to relaxers. I am having fun playing with my hair and with products, but that fun costs a pretty penny. I know as I progress to being a 3/4/5/etc natural, the novelty will wear off and the costs will come down, but for now I am not saving any money being natural. Just the opposite.

                  • E.

                    well this is new, considering that ive always found it a LOT cheaper to keep your hair natural, even if you are using the best products.

                    I would take a step back and make sure what youre using is not only effective for your hair but cost effective for your wallet. there should be no reason for taking care of your hair to be more expensive than taking care of a weave.

                    • Lia

                      Lol you you mad? As someone previously said, get a life. You really think women are going to run to the BSS and get a perm to stay out of a so called “trend”? Because of some troll on the internet?? … No ma’am lol. Have a nice day, and try to control your silly anger towards all the naturals you see, if you get out of the house that is.

                    • E.

                      TROLLOLOLOL

                    • Muzicklc

                       exactly what i wanted to know why is she mad? smh

                  • E.

                    well this is new, considering that ive always found it a LOT cheaper to keep your hair natural, even if you are using the best products.

                    I would take a step back and make sure what youre using is not only effective for your hair but cost effective for your wallet. there should be no reason for taking care of your hair to be more expensive than taking care of a weave.

                • Neecee401

                  Because you’ve been natural your whole life that makes you better? “Some of us have been natural from day one. The rest of you basic human
                  beings are just catching up. Or getting that mental slavery out your sad
                  little heads.”

                  A lot of women and girls have had their hair relaxed when they were younger by their mothers. How is a 7 year old going to stop their parents from putting a chemical in their hair? And that’s just what they grew up with until they could make the decision for themselves to go natural. You are automatically assuming that everybody who goes natural is doing it because as you say ” You just got tired of spending obnoxious amounts of money to maintain a
                  westernized idea of beauty. Those expensive weaves/extensions and perm
                  touchups were out the question when you all lost your jobs. Its not that
                  you were into exploring a natural way of living or doing your hair.
                  Youre doing it out of necessity.”

                  I decided to go back to my natural hair because I got sick of relaxers, period. It wasn’t about money, because I was doing it myself at home. I didn’t see the point in putting a chemical on my head just to get straight hair. I was also curious to see how my hair looked in its natural state. I got first relaxer at 12, but when I was natural before then my hair was always heat straightened or in braids or something.

                  Just because you’ve been natural your whole life doesn’t make you better then nobody. And shouldn’t cause you to start bashing people who actually choose to go back and embrace their natural hair despite the reason they did it. Some women think relaxing their hair was a good idea at the time (like me) and realized later its not.

                • Neecee401

                  Because you’ve been natural your whole life that makes you better? “Some of us have been natural from day one. The rest of you basic human
                  beings are just catching up. Or getting that mental slavery out your sad
                  little heads.”

                  A lot of women and girls have had their hair relaxed when they were younger by their mothers. How is a 7 year old going to stop their parents from putting a chemical in their hair? And that’s just what they grew up with until they could make the decision for themselves to go natural. You are automatically assuming that everybody who goes natural is doing it because as you say ” You just got tired of spending obnoxious amounts of money to maintain a
                  westernized idea of beauty. Those expensive weaves/extensions and perm
                  touchups were out the question when you all lost your jobs. Its not that
                  you were into exploring a natural way of living or doing your hair.
                  Youre doing it out of necessity.”

                  I decided to go back to my natural hair because I got sick of relaxers, period. It wasn’t about money, because I was doing it myself at home. I didn’t see the point in putting a chemical on my head just to get straight hair. I was also curious to see how my hair looked in its natural state. I got first relaxer at 12, but when I was natural before then my hair was always heat straightened or in braids or something.

                  Just because you’ve been natural your whole life doesn’t make you better then nobody. And shouldn’t cause you to start bashing people who actually choose to go back and embrace their natural hair despite the reason they did it. Some women think relaxing their hair was a good idea at the time (like me) and realized later its not.

            • YahSon

              She has a point. Ive been natural since I was 18, when it wasnt popular. I was teased and females didnt understand…. Im a cometologist and I ubderstood the damages of chemicals so that helped my decision…. But I would have still came to my scenses and went natural….. All black women should find a way to love ourselves a little further and have healthier hair…. Naturally. “Not a hairstyle but a lifestyle”

            • VeeAbe

               Wow. I have been natural most of my life and started to go back natural much before the recession. You sound incredibly narrow-minded.
              By the way, I and my friends never made jokes about a natural lady. If people made fun of you, I’m sorry for you…
              And what is this mental slavery thing that you put on everybody that is not natural? Do you know that some girls were brought up in a family where nobody is natural? Some girls have so much hair and don’t know how to manage, that they decide to relax? Do you know that for some girls it just seems easier? Of course, some people do not like there natural hair for historical reasons they don’t seem to cop with but don’t you think you categorize far too much?
              And please, keep you disdain to yourself. Your attitude should rather be happiness to see more girls becoming natural. Don’t you think? Why are you calling people “basic human being”?
              If you were any superior you would not be talking with such arrogance!
              I’ve enjoyed my natural hair for a long time and every time a girl decided to go natural I just feel happy that she embrasses her natural beauty and that’s it.
              Be positive and stop feeling superior!

      • E.

        Calm down hype guys.

        Ive been rocking natural hair since birth. No disgusting perms, no dead european hair weaves glued to my head. I lived that life for 29 years, much to the dismay of the basic b******s all around me, who were flabbergasted that I actually wear my hair in a well pulled together afro or braids.
        Now when the recession hits and you dont have $200 dollars every six weeks to go get your hair done… when you find out the long term effects those chemicals in texturizers and perms do to you.. NOW you tramps want to claim natural hair? as if your mothers didnt condition you to hate your “bad hair” from the jump? Or as if you werent throwin perms in it every chance you got? Yeah f*****n right.

        F**** out of here with this. I was being polite the first time around, but not now. Same b*****s trying to shave off their heads now and “go natural” were the same skanks who mocked me and my values of staying natural my whole entire life. YAY! You JUST NOW started wearing your hair the way God intended. Well guess what? SOME OF US HAVE BEEN DOING IT FROM THE START.

        You should have BEEN NATURAL. If you were out there doing ANYTHING less than treating your hair how it naturally came in, youre a p***y b**** who is hopping on a trend. You were probably one of those tramps who made fun of natural chicks for being proud of who they are, and now you wanna be like us.

        F**** out of here.
        You mentally enslaved, conditioned tramps.
        Miss me with your bulls***. Some of us have BEEN living this life.

        • Agentgrlx

          E., you need to take several seats in a dark corner somewhere. so sorry that you were teased many moons ago for your hair. get off the internet and get some counseling. you don’t know the hair/life journey of the posters on here, so stop with the self-righteous bs. 

          • 4b

            Agent, you must have been reading my mind. 

            • E.

              obviously, you are not much to read then huh.

          • E.

            Again, miss me with your tacky, permed out bullshit. You heauxs were rocking weaves, ya broke, and now youre doing what you should have been doing in the first place. EMBRACING WHAT GOD GAVE YOU.

            Hair journey. You dramatic heaux. You shoulda never had chemicals or weaves in your head in the first place. And youre not going to make me feel bad because my parents raised me to have pride in myself, my hair and my heritage, you poor lost soul.

            Oh my hair journey we just now realized womp womp womp. No one gives a flip about your trendy journey into what you should have been doing. Get it? You should have ALWAYS had natural hair and now you want to embrace it? Here. Congratuations dummy. You want a cookie?

            Point is, you should love every part of your natural self. Including your hair. You were too busy sewing in youre new weave to comprehend that basic idea, however.

            • 4B

              It’s just hair. What is with all the attitude, assumptions and put downs?

              • E.

                booo. its just hair. if it was just hair, it wouldnt be a 3 billion dollar business. 

                its just hair. again. thats what i was saying while people were gluing dead crap in their hair.natural hair is not something you people should be NEW to or trendy, is the point. and its kind of a serious problem. and so is the fact that you dont see it.

                • Msmykimoto2u

                   Its sisters like you that work my last nerves. So what you never had a relaxer? Woo-the-freakin-hoo, you want a cookie? It is just hair, and while yes the hair business is a multi billion dollar industry, “your” hair is not worth a billion dollars.
                  How dare you try to judge other women for the way they choose to wear the hair that grows from their scalp? Do you think that makes you better than them because you choose to wear your hair natural like you are the only woman who has never had a relaxer in this world? Grow up. The beauty of black women is that we can rock our hair straight, curly, relaxed, natural, weaved up, braided, or bald and still look freaking fabulous.
                  And speaking of relaxers, the chances of a person dying from cancer from getting relaxers if really, really,slim. Women have been getting relaxers since the Madam CJ Walker days and few have died because of it. Is being natural safer, yes. Does it mean your hair is healthier because its natural? Heck no. Its all in how you take care of it and if you dont know how, then it will break and damage whether relaxed or natural.
                   
                  When I had my hair relaxed it was strong, thick and almost to the middle of my back. Being natural, is easier because I can wash and go but I still spend the same amount of effort caring for it and almost the same amount of money. I wear weaves as a protective hair style not because I am self hating or want to look like someone else. But I think the sad part of it is that you have so much uncalled for resentment for women whose hair does not look like yours? Obviously you have been hurt and its not my place to say “get over it” but you do not need to be criticizing ANYONE for how they wear their hair. You dont like it? Pay for them to get it done. I’m done.

                  • E.

                    miss me with whatever bullshit your typing. i dont care what sisters work your last nerves. sisters like you who deny who you are, then wanna hop on the trendytrain is why girls like me cant be themselves.

                    chemicals are horrible for your body and hair. you know that chemicals are bad for your body and hair. yet you f*ckboys would rather strive to obtain some westernized standard of beauty white people project on you, and expose yourself to chemicals YOU KNOW will KILL YOU just so you can have what. Straight Hair? So it can be easier to comb through? Stop fighting and denying who you are. We musta missed that whole part of Malcolm X’s book when he directly addresses “hair conking” and the evils it not only does to your body, but your MIND. 

                    YOUR HAIR ISNT EASY TO MANAGE. STOP BEING A LAZY HEAUX AND DO IT. ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD, IT NEVER WAS.

                    Also, dummy, if you would read… i just said I had 4B hair. The exact s**t you described. Difference between you and me is that I didnt have a lazy mother who didnt wanna do my hair. I had a mother who taught me to love my hair, myself, and that if combing through some thickness is the price i had to pay for having beautiful AFRICAN hair… then so be it. 

                    And quit acting like you aint patting your raggedy weave right now. Trendfollower.

                    Yall can miss me.

                    YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN NATURAL FROM DAY ONE, DUMMIES.

                    • Msmykimoto2u

                      I dont care what type of hair you have you ignorant, juvenile little girl. Name calling, really? How old are we 12? You are not better than anyone who chooses to wear their hair relaxed or weaved rather than natural because its their business. And with that attitude of yours, it wouldnt matter if your hair was made out of gold, i dont understand how anyone would be attracted to someone as ignorant as you. And listen here little girl, you do not know my mother so you have no place to speak about her. My mother never gave me a perm that was my choice I made when I got older that I paid to get done. And yes heffa, it was healthy. And guess whatt? I havent been posioned or chemically damaged yet. I managed my natural hair for 16 years

                    • Msmykimoto2u

                      …..and I had no problem maintaing it since it grew out my head DUH I knew how to maintain my own hair! I got relaxed because I wanted a change. I cut it off because I wanted a change and because I’m a grown woman and I can do whatever the heck I please, Mrs. Pot Calling The Kettle Black. You talk about being teased for your hair when you are doing the same thing by talking down to those who dont have natural hair. You dont control anything but your mouth. Worry about the stuff on your head and not whats on mine or anyone elses. Better yet, get off this blog with your trifflin behind and take all that foolish talk with you and get a life. Go do a twist out or something. Your ignorance isnt wanted here because obviously  just because your hair may be beautiful doesnt make you a beautiful person. As in the words of India Arie, I am not my hair.
                       

                    • E.

                      miss me with this sh*t, shut up and get a life. 

                      If you had a perm in your head, youre a f*cking dummy. Period.

                    • Msmykimoto2u

                      ANd you are a fool. Period.

            • NoMysteryHere

              And whats so funny is that you’re sittin here talking about “You should have been natural” when your heaux a$$ got pics all over ya twitter page and whatnot of all these celebrities and artist you love so much who rock perms and weaves including this LaToiya Williams chick your obsessively stalking. Hypocritical much? Phoney a$$. LOL

        • NoMysteryHere

          I bet 100 bucks you’re a fat chick. You might have “natural” hair but I bet the food you shove down you’re throat ain’t natural. Think about that next time you’re shoving McD’s, Burger King and White Castle down your throat. Self righteous loser. Kick rocks. You get no kudos for natural hair. Write back when you’ve actually accomplished something. Fightin’ over nonsense. Being natural has done your brain no favors, I see. 

        • congratulations! eat a cookie. 

        • Boo you sound angry lol…did you have a bad day lol Its not that serious relax chica lol

    • Sue

      I went “natural” back in 2007 because I was tired of perming my hair and wondered what it looked like without one. No trend for me, this is for LIFE!

      • Pahleeze

        I agree I stopped perming because my hair was ultra thin and limp. I cut it off in 2010 and have been natural ever since.

        It was not a trend for me either BUT I agree that some women are going natural for some superficial reason. I dont think that comment was meant to offend but the ratio of people that are going natural because it is how their hair IS…are at a minimal. Most women ARE going natural because it appears to be in. Just sayin

        • Sue

          Co-Sign!

      • E.

        why would you put chemicals in your hair in the first place.

        • Sue

          Another reason why I’m natural friend!

    • tastythoughts

      trendy? girl please tv got you thinking crazy…..i went back to my natural hair in 09 when perm kept breaking my ends. besides who cares if its trendy or not….u can have just as unhealthy hair naturally as you can with a relaxer…so please…dont think of it as “trendy” embrace who you are and stop worrying about what is “in” and “out” cause loving you is always in style

    • Annilynn

      I hate that it’s considered “trendy” in the eyes of many now. Kind of pisses me off because I know some people think I only have my hair in a natural state simply because it just “the thing to do” these days.
      Unfortunately I haven’t always been natural; not by choice though. My mother started relaxing my hair at 11 and I decided to stop at 14. Never liked it. Always had this fear that one day my hair would just fall out. :I

      Frankly I couldn’t care less about other people perming/weaving/what have you to their hair though. Has nothing to do with me. So long as they don’t try to mock me about my hair. u.u

      And I just noticed this post is already 2 years old….but I had already started typing so, oh well. LoL