Beyond The BJ: 10 Things That Men Really Lust Over 

Man maintenance seems pretty simple: Keep his belly full, cater to his bedroom desires and stroke his ego, right? Yes, but there are also some unique ways to please him and keep yourself happy too. We polled a few good men — dating, married, single — to see what keeps them coming back for more.

1. “In the vein of Destiny’s Child ‘Cater to You’ — ie: Kelly’s line: ‘Remain the same chick, you fell in love with’ THAT IS THE ULTIMATE WOMAN! One who didn’t act one way to hook yo’ a!& and then flipped like a pancake after you got together. I believe I’m currently fortunate in that regard.” – Mr. CW
2. “I’m a sucker for music…so if she turns off all the lights and starts slow dancing to a song like ‘Brown Skin’ by India Irie, that’s hot!! Or if she sings to me, especially if she’s close to my ears. (The nerves on my ears are super sensitive, and touching anywhere around them short circuits me).” – Mr. CJ
3. “…can we hold a theoretical, not hypothetical discussion, without it devolving into a blank stare, thinking ‘this chick is dumb.’ LOL” – Mr. GC
4. “I love it when she makes the first move, not just the first kiss to get things going, but really makes a move. That shows me that she wants me and honestly, that’s all I need.” – Mr. EB
5. “A tattoo on the base of a woman’s spine is very Hot too. Makes me think that a woman who gets one is doing something special for the man she decides will be behind her at the most intimate of moments – it’s beautiful, very thoughtful.” – Mr. CW
6. “BUSH turns me on!! Yes, that’s right, I said it!! BUSH!!!! Forget those Brazilian Waxes ladies!! I like when a woman is all ‘au natural’ mainly because it makes me see her as a ‘woman’ and not some pubescent girl. I only like hair there and NO where else! My fetish is very specific and I love a well groomed woman.” – Mr. VF
7. “I never really thought about it much, because I have been married for a long time. But the attraction for me is how a woman complements (not compliments) you, meaning if she cooks a great meal, then I have no problem washing dishes. If she’s gonna scrub the toilets, then I’ll do the laundry. No fuss, no fight. Let’s work together. No telling each other what to do. Just do it, and don’t keep score. That’s hot to me.” – Mr. BA
8. “A woman who can laugh at a crass joke one minute and then talk about the state of the world the next, without skipping a beat? That shows versatility and openness. A woman who goes with the flow makes a man feel relaxed and confident as well. Only good things can follow.” – Mr. EB
9. “I enjoy a woman who likes sports. Besides being entertaining, I think a woman who understands sports also understands that fighting (competition) does not mean we no longer play the game (stay in the relationship).” – Mr. GC
10. “The things that I like my woman to do for me on occasion is to shock me in a pleasant way. Here is an example, I was in a serious relationship some years ago with a fairly conservative, Hot, smart woman. She took me out for my birthday and on our way home in the cab she proceeded to seduce me. I was utterly shocked, but wow was I turned on. I was forever turned on by her and the possibilities afterward. So, keep me guessing as I will hope to to do the same. But a BJ at any given moment is always welcome also.” – Mr. CG

So what does this all mean? Just as there are a beautiful array of Madames out here, there’s a lovely man who is going to love all sorts of aspects of you. So enjoy that special person you’ve found, or keep searching until you’ve found the one who lusts for you.