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Last week Chris Brown’s ex-lover, model Draya, posted a blog about her relationship with the singer.

While I have my thoughts on her publicity stunt, she did pose a valid question about dating a man with a history of domestic violence. Everyone has made mistakes, but could you date a man who has hit a woman?

The culprit of domestic violence, Chris Brown’s past directly affects his relationships with women. But as we’ve seen the pop star engage in relationships since the domestic violence situation, it doesn’t seem to bother some women.Are they forgiving? After all, we‘ve all made some type of mistakes, just maybe not as severe. Or are they crazy and naïve for forgiving a man who has previously hit a woman? A valid argument is what makes you think he won’t hit you?

After the incident with Chris Brown, Oprah offered Rihanna words of advice. Oprah sternly said ‘if he hits you once, he’ll hit you twice.” Does that mean once a domestic abuse offender, always an offender?

Knowing that 1.3 million women are victims of domestic abuse each year, it’s difficult to close our eyes to the situation. But what if you meet a man that you fall in love with despite his violent history? Would you force yourself to believe that he is a ‘changed man’? Or is he really a changed man?

In her blog, Draya said ‘As far as the whole violence thing goes, yeah it’s wrong, but you can only try to understand the situation. You will never truly know what went on inside of your man’s head that day.’

But what if what went on in his head that day goes on again while in a relationship with you?

Is dating a man with a violent past setting yourself up for a violent future, or is it really a matter of allowing someone a second chance at changing?