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Codependent and highly needy relationships are unhealthy for a number of reasons. If you are in one, and you’d like to establish more independence, there are baby steps you can take to do so. If you won’t do anything about it, or don’t even realize that you’re in such a relationship, it can hurt more than just your self-esteem and mental health: it can hurt your friendships. Unfortunately, you cannot control the reach and effects of your needy relationship. And it does reach people outside of the relationship, like your family and your friends. Needy relationships emit a powerful toxicity that touches everything around them. Your needy relationship affects not only the way you behave when you’re with your partner, but also the way you behave when you are anywhere, doing anything. Here is how needy relationships hurt your friendships. https://madamenoire.com/1051301/baby-steps-to-reducing-codependency/ You’re attached to your phone When you’re out with friends, you’re attached to your phone. You’re just texting your partner the whole time. You’ll step away from the group to answer every single phone call from him—and there are a lot. Your friends feel like you’re there, but you’re not really present. You aren’t listening Even if you aren’t on your phone with your partner, you’re still with him mentally. You’re fixating on your last conversation with him, rather than paying attention to your friends. They can feel it. You always leave early You always bail on events awkwardly early. You do this because your partner will be home at 7pm so you want to make sure to be home at 6:58pm. There’s no good reason for that, other than that you’re both needy. But your friends wind up feeling disrespected. You plan around your partner You won’t make a plan with a friend until consulting your partner. Your friends feel like they’re making plans with you and your partner, accommodating both schedules, when they were just trying to plan something with you. The relationship always comes first No matter what, the relationship always comes first. If your friend just went through the worst breakup ever and asks you to come over, you might say, “Oh I’m sorry. I’m watching a movie with my boyfriend right now but I can come over tomorrow.” Uuuuh. The movie can wait! Your friend is hurting! You’re needy of them when he’s away The moment your boyfriend goes out of town, you become unbearably needy towards your friends. Your relationship has made you overall quite codependent and you cannot be alone. So you harass your friends to see and speak to you every minute your partner is away. You become a big baby You and your partner indulge each other’s every whim and ridiculous demand. You turn each other into big, high maintenance babies. You behave that way around your friends, too. You’re used to your partner at home tolerating it. You pass the stress onto your friends Your partner has become a big baby, too. He doesn’t like crowds. He likes to eat by this time. Whatever his high demands are that you always meet—you ask your friends to accommodate them, too. Nobody can reach you You won’t answer your calls or texts when you’re with your partner. Even if you’re just sitting around on the couch, doing nothing with him—you won’t break away for even a second to pick up the phone. It drives your friends crazy. You cancel a lot You’ll cancel on your friends if your boyfriend’s plans for the night fell through, and he asks you to hang out. You’ll cancel on your friends if your boyfriend so much as says his throat hurts. You want to stay home and play nurse. Or you only plan at the last minute When you do make plans, it’s always at the last minute. It’s obvious you were just waiting to see what your partner was doing, he turned out to be busy, and now you don’t want to be alone. Girls’ night is always at your place You insist on making everyone drive to your place for girls’ night. You just don’t want to leave your precious partner. Or he comes to girls’ night If girls’ night happens out at a restaurant or bar, you bring your boyfriend. This is problematic for so many reasons. https://madamenoire.com/1045940/do-you-bring-your-man-to-girls-night-dont/ Nobody wants to double date with you Other couples don’t want to double date with you. As a pair, you’re very flaky, often cancelling because you just want to be home alone, together. On double dates, you focus on each other and don’t even really talk to the other people. Nobody wants to travel with you All of the issues that happen on double dates are heightened on group vacations. So nobody invites you to travel with them.

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