8. Should we stop having sex until we say, “I do.”?
This is something else that I don’t quite understand, but try not to pass judgment on. If you are genuinely saving yourself for marriage, then it makes sense to wait a little longer until it’s official. But on the other hand, if you’ve already been fornicating and have no religious or other objections against that type of behavior, what’s the point of taking a break now? While marriage is a sacrament for some, getting married itself shouldn’t be the only reason you choose to live a sin-free life. I make it a point to respect everyone’s beliefs, but I don’t feel like not having sex just because you’re engaged if you already been having sex on the regular is going to make your marriage anymore pure. It’s important to function in your relationship the way you and your partner feel works best; you don’t have to prove anything to anyone else or live according to what others expect. If you want to take a breather until you’re an actual bride, that’s fine as long as it’s what YOU want to do.