This week, The Luv Coach helps a reader define her boundaries between her male best friend — and his jealous girlfriend. Read on and weigh in with comments below.
Dear Luv Coach,
I’ve been best friends with this guy for years. But (there’s always a but) every time he has a girlfriend he disappears! When we were first starting to become friends his girlfriend got jealous and called me because apparently he mentioned me too much. I felt bad for her because she sounded sad so I assured her I never wanted him. He’s like my big brother. She never jumped boosie over the phone. I got mad at him for giving this other girl I didn’t know my number. So while in class the next day she starts texting me crazy. My first response was “I’m in class.” Then came the B word. I hold my temper a lot but I do not respond kindly to not being called by my birth name. So she got cursed out and I said some things about her insecurities. Ever since then we’ll talk once in a while then he’ll disappear. Should I stay his friend or spare the drama?