“I Began To Want To Please Myself First:” 9 Famous Women On How They Learned To Love Their Bodies

October 18, 2017  |  
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Today is Love Your Body Day which may seem odd because we should love our bodies every day. But the very fact that such a designated holiday exists is proof of how many of us don’t.

While it’s expected that teens struggle with body issues as they undergo hormonal changes at one of the most vulnerable times in their lives, so many of us carry those insecurities with us throughout adulthood, and celebrities are no different.

Since we love to get style, beauty, and fitness tips from celebs, we figured we should take something a little deeper from the rich and famous today. Like lessons on how to embrace your figure and love your body just as it is. Here are insights from 9 of our favorite famous women on how they did just that.

MILAN, ITALY – SEPTEMBER 23: Serena Williams is seen leaving the Versace show during Milan Fashion Week Spring/Summer 2017 on September 23, 2016 in Milan, Italy. (Photo by Jacopo Raule/Getty Images)

Serena Williams

“I know I get flack for my physique, and it has been a struggle to love my body, but now curves are in and I’m happier [with] myself,” she told The Times magazine. “Women face so many impossible ideals. It’s important for me to get across that there’s more than one way to look amazing.

NEW YORK, NY – SEPTEMBER 23: Gabby Sidibe attends the 21st Annual Urban Film Festival at AMC Empire 25 theater on September 23, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Mychal Watts/WireImage)

Gabourey Sidibe

“My first diet started when I was six years old,” she told Oprah. “I’ve never been a small girl. One day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I loved myself no matter what my body looked like and what other people thought about my body … I got tired of feeling bad all the time. I got tired of hating myself.”

attends Hearst Magazines’ Unbound Access MagFront at Hearst Tower on October 17, 2017 in New York City.

Danielle Brooks

“Sometimes I’ll look at myself and be like, ‘Dang girl, you got a lot of stretch marks.’ But then I’m like, ‘That’s just the road map of my strength,’” she told People magazine. “They remind me of things that I’ve gone through. I need to just embrace them and celebrate them. For the most part, I find ways to embrace my body.

“Sometimes I can brush it off. You know, the hater, snd sometimes it’s not always easy to do. But for me, I think it all starts with self, and how you feel about yourself that really matters. It doesn’t matter what other people think of you.”

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“Growing up, I wasn’t the most secure about my body: My legs were too muscular, I was kind of skinny, and I was taller, so I used to walk with my back hunched over,” she told Glamour. “I definitely felt like I stood out. As I got older, I learned to embrace those unique things. The insecurities don’t go away, you know, when you’re a young woman you’re still discovering your body and yourself and the world. And I didn’t used to be as expressive because I worried what people would say. Now I’m like you know what, I am who I am, take it or leave it, but I’m good with me. It’s definitely been a process over the years, but I think showing your individuality is very important.”

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Jennifer Hudson

“You’ve got to embrace yourself. Love what skin you’re in,” she told Huffington Post. “It’s not about what other people think. It’s about what you believe about yourself, so own it.”

Kerry Washington

“There have been times when I felt like my body had to be a certain way in order to love it, instead of loving your body as it is, which is the way to be most comfortable in it,” she said. “[Hollywood] taught me to resist the urge to define beauty based on other people’s judgments.”

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Mary J. Blige

“Society paints this picture where you have to have the longest hair and the thinnest body and you can’t help but want to be that beautiful person you see on that picture,” she said on The Tyra Banks Show. But then you have to start asking yourself the question — Is that realistic for you? I began to ask myself those questions: Who am I working out for? Who am I looking good for? When I look in the mirror who do I want to please? Do I want to please people or do I want to please Mary first? So I began to want to please myself first. I can’t please everybody. I can’t be the slimmest girl. Be the best you that you can be.”

Tia Mowry-Hardrict

“I’m not as thin as I used to be, but that’s OK,” she told Self. “I’m who I am, and I just want to encourage moms to embrace those changes. Those changes didn’t happen in vain. We all go through cycles. That’s life. We don’t have to be perfect, so embrace your imperfections.”

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Viola Davis

“I truly believe that the privilege of a lifetime is being who you are, and I just recently embraced that at 51,” Davis said while being honored at the Critics Choice Awards. “I think my strongest power is that at 10 o’clock every Thursday night, I want you to come into my world. I am not going to come into yours. You come into my world and you sit with me, my size, my hue, my age, and you sit and you experience. And I think that’s the only power I have as an artist.

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