Gabrielle Union: Miss Me With The “Dress Modestly Sh-t” When Telling Women How To Avoid Sexual Assault
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Ever since people put a fish-eye lens on the behavior of film producer, studio executive and serial philanderer Harvey Weinstein in terms of his alleged track record of sexually harassing female actresses and assistants over the span of nearly the last three decades, there has been a lot of discussion. Unfortunately, not enough of it has been aimed at people like Weinstein. Instead, there has been a lot of talk about sexual harassment/assault victims, why they choose to not speak out at times, what happens when they do, and what efforts can be taken, particularly when it comes to what women wear and the spaces they enter, to avoid unwanted attention and harassment. The latter aspect of these conversations is obviously problematic. And while one might assume it’s only men telling women to dress “like a lady” or questioning why they take meetings in hotel rooms (literally, even press junket interviews are done in hotel suites, which are massive and in no way match the ordinary hotel room), women, too, have taken part in such questioning. That includes designer Donna Karan, who said some of the women her friend Weinstein was inappropriate with could have been “asking for it by presenting all the sensuality and all the sexuality,” and actress Mayim Bialik of Blossom and The Big Bang Theory. She wrote in a New York Times op-ed piece that while nothing is an excuse for such behavior, she takes precautions to avoid the realities of how men in power can conduct themselves. As she wrote, “my sexual self is best reserved for private situations with those I am most intimate with. I dress modestly. I don’t act flirtatiously with men as a policy.”
But Gabrielle Union, a survivor of sexual violence, took to Twitter on Sunday afternoon to let people know, in a series of poignant messages, that she’s not trying to hear any of that.
Where do you stand in the conversation about who should do what when it comes to perpetuating and avoiding sexual harassment/violence? Talk about it.