Do you have friends who call their family anytime they need a little confidence boost before an important meeting? Or friends who go home after a breakup because that’s where they feel the most comfortable? Do you ever wonder, “What the heck must that be like?” There are some lucky clans out there that just get along; in addition to being family, they are also friends who speak the same language, have the same values, enjoy the same activities and have similar perspectives on life. Then there are the rest of us who stare at those people, baffled. And we don’t appreciate their judgment, either—sometimes it is just really hard to get along with your family, no matter how hard you try. Here are realities only people who don’t get along with their family understand.