No amount of breakups can prepare you for a divorce. In a perfect world, a divorce would be just like a breakup that required a little paperwork. In the real world, it’s far more than that. Your divorce will affect more than just you and your ex; it will hit your family like a ton of bricks and even emotionally affect your friends. There are also just practical changes that occur when you’re no longer married. Even though you’re struggling with the awful personal emotions that come with a divorce, the world will not leave you alone to grieve; you won’t get to choose if and when you think or talk about your divorce, or just how much it affects your life. There’s a reason a lot of people go to therapy after going through a divorce. Here are divorce dynamics nobody is ever prepared for.