The Curious Case Of The Two Ambers

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While it wouldn’t be fair to suggest that Ms. Rose is responsible for the fate of Young Amber, it’s hard to not draw the correlation to how the carelessness of exploiting one’s own sexuality can and does have unintended repercussions for not only that person but others, who follow suit.

Amber Rose, who was probably guided by the promises of fast money and some semblance of notoriety, found herself stripping and being exploited for the male gaze at the age of 15 years old – much like Young Amber. We simple can’t dismiss the psychologically damaging, stigmatization and overall danger that engaging in adult levels of sexuality, at such young ages, has to one’s own mental health. This is, after all, still not a liberated world we live in.  And people can be downright cruel and unforgiving to sexualized-women.

In one such interview, Rose shields herself from such criticisms by suggesting that “men in the entertainment industry are praised constantly for their “wrong doings”. If ur [you’re] a drug dealer and u took care of ur [your] family before ur [your] fame everyone understands. If u get shot in the mist of u hustling ur [your] cool as f-ck. If a man’s naked pics hit the internet ppl [people] think it’s cute or funny then just talk about how big he is. A man can date 20 models at the same time and he is respected by the world and if a girl does it she’s a disgusting Slore and a “Star F–ker.” Women get destroyed by the media and our peers constantly but I am writing this to specifically speak about myself.”

The reality is much different. While Amber Rose is a victim of this society’s obsession with the vapid chicks, she is also a perpetrator of the sort of scantily clad, oversexualized Hottentots, which has become so pervasive in music and entertainment.  Young girls see Ms. Rose, hear of her alleged exploits, see where she is now and think that there is nothing wrong with it. And truthfully, there isn’t anything wrong with it within the right context of being a mature woman, who is totally in control of her sexuality.

And that’s the part of the narrative, which is largely missing from Amber Rose as well as other modern-day sex kittens. Is it okay for women to be seen as sexual beings? Yes. Are teenage girls allowed to explore their sexuality? Some would debate this but considering that teenage girls (and boys) have been having sex since the beginning of civilization, I’ll say yes to that as well.  But there is no real responsibility for what adult folks put out there, nor is there any explanation for what these images really mean.  And whether we like it or not, the children are watching – sometimes without the guidance of responsible adults in their lives, who can tell or show them the joys, the power and the responsibility, which comes with being a sexual being. It makes one wonder just how in control of their sexuality, Rose and other vixens really are.

Charing Ball is the author of the blog People, Places & Things.

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