Woman to Woman: He is not leaving her…

October 1, 2011  |  

So he told you he was unhappy and that he wished he met you three years ago. He says that they sleep in separate beds and he is only with her for the kids.  He even told you he was looking for a place and asked you to help him.  Sweetheart, I’m sorry to break it to you but he is lying. He is not going anywhere and you’re being played for a fool…

Ladies, let me tell you a few secrets about men.  To begin with they crave stability. Even if he is so called ‘unhappy’ at home its unlikely that he will uproot himself and go look for another place to live alone, his woman will have to leave him first. Men are also smarter than we think. They can sense weakness and desperation a mile away and take advantage of a woman if she allows him too. If he can have his cake and eat it too, trust me he will.  Men who cheat are also very good at making you feel special without making you a priority in their lives. Don’t fall for just sweet talk; let his actions speak for him. Also, men are very practical creatures. They know it’s cheaper to keep her, so you do the math.

While some of you may think, you don’t owe his woman anything by considering her feelings or family because you’re not the one with or married to her; you may be right, but don’t you owe yourself the respect to not be a jump off (yes – it is what it is)? Quit playing that card, it’s old and tired. You deserve much more than that. Being someone’s secret, side piece or second choice should not be your agenda, please understand that.

Always remember, a man will never do anything that he doesn’t want to do. So if he’s still living at home ‘unhappy’ it’s because he wants to. And trust, that “unhappiness” is only for the moment. You can expect ups and downs in any relationship. So, stop falling for the oldest line in the book, because woman to woman, he’s not leaving her…

 

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