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Cynthia Bailey has been very vocal about her divorce from Peter Thomas. Very vocal. We literally watched her go from happily in love, to a little disenchanted, to a bit disgusted and then the announcement of her divorce. Up until this point, Bailey, when questioned, has been a bit vague about the reasons why she felt she and Peter couldn’t make it work, citing their presence on reality tv for the entirety of their marriage, as one of the pitfalls. But during her sit down interview with Steve Harvey, Bailey explained that after years of working on her marriage, she reached a breaking point and realized she’d done all that she could do.

Steve Harvey:  What changed?
Cynthia Bailey: I think I just reached a breaking point. I just felt like, you know what, since I’ve been in this marriage, I’ve been working on this marriage, and it just got to a point where I just got tired of working on my marriage. And I felt like, you know what, I’ve given all I can give.
Steve:  Is the divorce mutual?
Cynthia:  Well, I actually initiated it, um, I think in Peter’s heart, he knows that we’ve just kind of come to the end of the road. I think he’s just the type of person that would just kind of hang in there and just keep roughing it out. But you know, I’m reaching a huge milestone. Next year I’m going to be turning 50 and …. when I wake up on my 50th birthday, you know, I really want to open my eyes and just love everything that I see, and love the person that I’m with and just have peace. And um, this marriage …. it was supposed to happen. I’ve been engaged a couple of times, but Peter is the only man that I married, and I have absolutely no regrets. But I just want peace and I just wasn’t getting peace and that’s what I want for my next chapter.

Then later in the interview, Bailey spoke about the foundation of she and Peter’s relationship being based on friendship. She said sometime in the middle of their marriage, they lost that.

Cynthia: You know, there’s just a lot of things that you go through as a couple …. Peter and I were friends before we were you know, husband and wife, and I felt like we just started to lose focus on that friendship and …. that was the beginning of it …. At this point, you know Steve, I just feel like …. well I know that I can just be a better friend to Peter than his wife.

After that, Steve read a meme that Peter shared on his Instagram page, a meme from Cynthia’s ex and Baby Daddy Leon:

Cynthia responded:

 When I’m in, I’m all in. But when I’m out, I’m out …. I really know that I gave this all that I can give. I don’t need to keep um, giving and giving and giving …. I sleep very well at night, knowing that I did the best that I could do. This is my first marriage. I’m not saying, you know, I was the best wife in the world. I completely accept my accountability for my short comings. However, I tried my best and that just has to be good enough.

I’m sure we’ll be hearing more about what went down and how it went down in upcoming interviews from both Peter and Cynthia. What do you think about her comments? Do you believe there’s more to the story than just her not wanting to work on it anymore? And do you think not wanting to work on your marriage a good enough reason to call it quits?

You can watch this episode of “The Steve Harvey Show” today. Click here, to check your local listings.

Veronica Wells is the culture editor at She is also the author of “Bettah Days.” You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter @VDubShrug.

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