Woman to Woman: She Don’t Want Your Man

September 24, 2011  |  

Ladies, trust me I get it – it’s hard to find a good man so when you get a hold of one you are not trying to let him go. But that is no excuse to think and behave as if every other woman wants your man too. Stay with me here…

That attractive woman who just walked in the room is not thinking about you or your man. There is a very good chance that she has a man of her own and doesn’t even notice yours. But while you side eye her and squirm closer to your boo because you feel somewhat threatened by her presence, she is shaking her head and thinking – “I don’t even want your man”.

Insecurity is so unattractive, especially when it comes to relationships with men. When we expose our trust issues to the world by doing shameless acts like that, all we are really doing is reinforcing the fact that we are unhappy and need to evaluate why we are with someone who we don’t trust. Most of the time these issues stem from deep-rooted problems within our relationship such as – when you met him he wasn’t quite “single” yet and now you fear the tables will turn on you; you’ve caught him cheating before, forgave him but didn’t forget and now you are always on guard; your confidence and self-esteem is at an ultimate low resulting in feelings of inadequacy and insecurity; and/or your man is simply no good and you know it. Regardless of which issue you may own, that jealous attitude needs to be checked at the door.

You can save yourself the embarrassment of making a fool of yourself in public because if your man is going to disrespect you and cheat on you, he will do so regardless of how many times you try to intercept and control the situation. But treating your fellow sister as if she is out to get you and take your man is just wrong. Now let’s not be a fool and think there aren’t some women out there who behave that way.  There are some trifling ladies in the world who don’t care if your man is with you or not because they have an agenda of their own. So rightfully so you may have to keep your eye out for them, but in any other case where you feel like a woman may want your man or your man may want her, trust me she is not interested and woman to woman – she don’t want your man…


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