Eleven years ago when Mo’Nique decided an open marriage was best for her relationship with Sidney Hicks, the concept was somewhat novel. Now? Not so much. Yet for some reason the actress and comedian is still explaining the logistics of her union every chance she gets and I can’t for the life of me figure out if that’s because people still can’t wrap their minds around such an agreement or she’s trying to convince the masses to be okay with how she loves up on her man — and others if she so chooses.
When Mo’Nique and Sidney announced the creation of a podcast titled “Open Marriage,” earlier this year I immediately wondered, how much could there be to say about that? I also assumed the title was just a way to get people’s attention, draw viewers, and make a little extra cash on the side. But from the get-go it seemed Mo’Nique’s goal was to clear her name, as she told listeners in episode one of the couple’s decision to have an open marriage: “It was not Sidney’s idea to have an open marriage; it was mine.”
Alright cool. You wanna have your cake and eat it too and Sidney’s okay with it? More power to you and yours boo. Say no more. Literally, say no more.
Unfortunately, Mo’Nique’s said plenty more, the latest statements coming yesterday when she appeared on Sway’s Universe to explain, once again, the rules of her union which should really only matter to the two of them. Nevertheless, she shared:
“If my husband should sleep with another woman, is that the end of our marriage? No. If I should sleep with another man, or have sex — if we gon’ do-the-do is that the end? No. But we’re open and honest with one another to have the conversation.
“So when people say, ‘Cheat.’ How do you cheat hen you say here are the answers? And what that does is, what it did for me, it made me really appreciate what I had.”
OK sis. But do we need to know all of this (again)? If I were a celebrity, I’d likely put this news out one good time, just to let people know not to run up on me with rumors about my husband being with another woman because if our marriage is open I already know what he’s doing. However, once I lay it out there, that’s that. I’m not going to keep explaining or trying to justify this very personal choice to people who are not in my marriage. And further, as my coworker recently pointed out, Mo’Nique is too talented for this.
Let’s be honest about something real quick. Celebrities who use their relationships for headlines are lacking one crucial thing: talent. Mo’Nique is not one of those people who has to use her sensationalized marriage arrangement for attention. The woman is hilarious, a damn good actress, and she has a movie coming out this Christmas. Frankly, I’d rather hear her joke about her marriage on stage than listen to another drawn out explanation of why these two can do the do with whomever they want. I get it. I got it three or four years ago when Mo’Nique first told the world what’s up. I’m not sure what else we’re supposed to take from their situation other than the fact that what they’ve decided on works for them. But, honestly, we kinda gathered that already, considering they’re still together. You don’t have to prove anything to us Mo. We know you and Sidney are good. And that’s good enough for us.