Mom Shaming Is Still Not Cool: Chrissy Teigen Under Attack Again
This is probably a long shot (a very long one) but here’s what I wish. I wish women had more unity and could realize we are all in this “life” thing together. I wish that new mothers would receive lots of positive support and constructive criticism instead of unsolicited judgmental advice.
When I read a few days ago that model Chrissy Teigen had been mom shamed once again I just shook my head. I hate mom shaming. Why? Because adults need to focus on fixing themselves and their families and stop focusing so much energy on others.
I applaud Chrissy for making her twitter account private after being judged by followers about the way she was holding her baby while her and hubby John Legend were in New York. This wasn’t the first time either. Right after giving birth to her daughter Luna Simone in April of 2016 she went out on a dinner date with her hubby and social media went crazy. In an interview with Michael Strahan on “Good Morning America” she said she knew mom shaming existed but said “It was about nine to ten days after,” she told Michael Strahan. “I mean we needed a break. We needed to go enjoy each other’s company and be out. And she continued: “I didn’t think it would come from going to dinner… That’s not something I thought would happen.”
I think it’s important that we get to the root of the mom-shaming woman. I am not saying that women aren’t entitled to different opinions. I am talking about those extra judgmental, my stuff don’t stink Internet mom trolls that are just looking to ruin someones day with their nastiness.
In my opinion, chronic mom shamers have to be insecure women. In a study called “The Mom Confessions,” 26,000 moms were surveyed by TODAY.com. The study found that many of the moms had secret insecurities about their parenting and admitted that they judged other moms.
Here are some of the conclusions:
– If given the chance, 23 percent of moms would choose a different spouse/partner and 21 percent would have more children.
– Out of the moms who ever wished their child was the opposite sex, nearly two-thirds are moms of boys.
– Weight versus smarts: 45 percent of moms would choose to weigh 15 pounds less rather than add 15 points to their child’s IQ.
– Nearly 1 in 5 moms confessed to medicating their child to calm him/her down before a big trip — and nearly 1 in 12 do so on a regular night just for some peace and quiet.
– 49 percent have knowingly sent a sick child to daycare or school.
– More than 1 in 3 admits to judging moms of overweight kids.
– 43 percent judge moms who still breastfeed their toddlers.
So what is the solution?
If you are one or know some judgmental mothers then it’s time for some inner work to be done. Soul search and aim to ground yourself. Get to know who you are, meditate if you have to, reflect, journal but ultimately the goal is to redirect that negative energy into something more positive—self help ladies.