Tina Knowles-Lawson Talks “Falling In Love With Myself” After Divorce Before Falling For Richard Lawson
One of the main reasons many women struggle to leave unhealthy relationships is due to the fear of having to start all over again. The work it will take to try dating again and the worry about whether or not you will find love can be taxing. But if you thought leaving your five-year relationship was too hard, imagine trying to start over after nearly 30 years and two children. That was what Tina Knowles-Lawson was facing when she decided to split from Mathew Knowles in 2009.
With their divorce finalized in 2011, Tina admitted that she had her doubts about whether or not she’d find love again. But as she told T.D. Jakes, she did indeed find it (with hunky actor Richard Lawson) after focusing on loving herself first.
“I have always believed in life after divorce, although there was a period of time where I wondered,” she told Jakes on his OWN talk show. “I had doubts. I was 59 years old and was so engrossed in my work. I was running a company, I was doing all these other things and working. I just didn’t think there was any way I could meet someone. So I started by falling in love with myself again. That was really important.”
And that worked out perfectly. She eventually started dating Lawson in 2013 and by 2015, they were married.
The interesting thing about their story, as she stated in an International Women & Money Leadership Luncheon speech in 2014, was that she almost didn’t give him the time of day. It started when her friend Monica tried to do a pow-wow to help Tina find a man.
“So Monica called him up and we went by his acting school and he took us out to eat afterwards and my friend says, ‘Okay Richard! Do you know any men?’ And he’s like, ‘Well, what’s she looking for?’ So I say, ‘You know, I want somebody with integrity, that believes in God, that likes to dance, likes to have fun and appreciates art.’ And he’s like, ‘Oh! Well, what about me?’ And we both say, ‘Hell no!’ So he says, ‘Okay, well, I’ll see who I can think of.’
So the next night he took us out dancing and we just had a good time. He said, ‘Well, can we get away from Monica?’ because Monica just takes over the conversation. So we went to lunch and he said, ‘I want to support you during this time because Mathew — he’s friends with Mathew, too — just got married yesterday.’ But look at the timing here. Before that time I was not ready. I did not have closure. But talk about God being right on time. We had this great lunch and he said, ‘I want to support you during this time. I’m going to come to Houston.’ So he came to Houston, I went to LA afterwards, and it’s been now a year and five months. I’m in a committed relationship with that handsome man! And I’m the happiest I’ve been in a long, long time.”
What a wonderful reminder that it’s never too late to find love.