By Tanvier Peart
New moms, we can all relate to the anxiousness and hesitancy that comes with getting your groove back after you’ve had a baby. I remember it well…It was way too long since I could get my swerve on since becoming a mom and after one more week of waiting, and I was about to finally hit the six week mark. While I understand the standard “no sex” hiatus we have to take after having a baby, six weeks feels like…six weeks. Forget the frustrations my husband had been experiencing–I too had not been able to dip my toe into the pleasure department. He was counting his stars that I had been taking care of him, but dang it, what about my needs? Well, when the time finally came (no pun intended!) and boy was I ready to roll down the blinds and turn things up. But rather than jump into it, I thought it would be more memorable to change things up and add some spice to the usual routine.
Here are some postpartum ideas you can use to rekindle the romance after baby.
Playing games – Our kids might have Toys R’ Us but grown folks need their board games and toys to keep things spicy, too. If you are unable to leave your house but can steal some alone time consider playing a game with your partner. This Fifty Days of Play, for example, will take you on an adventure with a happy ending.
Escape to a hotel – Drop the kids off with a grandparent or trusted family member/friend so you can get away to a nearby hotel. Even if it’s for a night just being in a space outside of your home will have you more relaxed and hopefully, sexual.
Schedule a daytime touch and tickle – So you might be feeling overwhelmed and like you just don’t have time to rekindle your romance, which is exactly why you need to think outside the box. If both you and your love have day jobs, then schedule to meet up during lunch. Hopefully you have an hour or are able to work extra for more time so you can meet at a nearby hotel (sounds seedy, but is really fun) for loving, or go out to eat somewhere nice. It doesn’t matter what you do so long as you do it together.
Happy hour role play – Once you have clocked out of work, connect with your guy at a nearby happy hour. Rather than approach him like normal, pretend you are meeting for the first time with a little role play. The more into it you are the more fun you will have – and feel free to use props like wigs.
Learn new tricks – I am all for expanding my knowledge-base when it comes to keeping things hot in my marriage. Try learning new tricks like pole dancing, sultry movement classes or whatever else you can think of to turn things up at home. Sure your guy will appreciate the final result, but you will have a ball picking up a new skill.