Saying “No” is incredibly liberating. But so many of us are afraid of coming off as cold, unemphatic, rude, uncaring, or selfish that we end up saying yes. The funny thing is that most of the people who ask you for things are being all of those things! They’re overstepping their bounds; they don’t care how inappropriate or demanding the ask is. They are actually unemphatic, and just hoping to take advantage of your kindness. I don’t want to make everyone who simply asks for something out to be evil. But many people just don’t realize they’ve crossed a line by asking for something.
So, really, if you think about it, when somebody asks something of you that makes you uncomfortable or puts you in a tough spot, you can only win by saying, “No.” If they get mad, now you’ve learned they never cared about your needs. If they totally understand, now you know who you can trust. So here are times you should say, No more.