Things You Can’t Afford To Stress About But Probably Do Anyway

September 22, 2016  |  
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As you likely know by now, stress is quite bad for the body. It can suppress the immune system, making it harder for a person to fight off viruses; it can boost hormones that increase appetite, making it very hard to stick to a good diet; and it can keep a person up at night. Sleep deprivation comes with its own long list of negative consequences, but we hardly have time for those right now. Avoiding stress entirely is rather impossible. But it is important to at least know what scenarios and problems in life actually deserve your stress — since your body really can’t afford you losing it over every little issue that comes up. So here’s a list of things you really shouldn’t stress about, like at all.

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People misinterpreting you

It can feel pretty dreadful when you think somebody misheard you or misinterpreted something you did or said, and their misinterpretation sheds a not-so-flattering light on you. You may stay awake at night stressing that somebody now things that you’re selfish, or judgmental, or rude because of something they think you said.
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Real friends judge you as a whole

If someone can change their general opinion about you because they believe you said one thing that was slightly off, they were never your friend, to begin with. People who are meant to be in your life judge you on all of your behavior as a whole, not for one small mistake.
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Saving, saving, saving

You should certainly put aside money for retirement, medical emergencies, and maybe a nice house one day! But your fear of not affording these things might cause you to never spend a dime on things you enjoy.
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You can save and have fun

You shouldn’t forego all fun and pleasures to pinch every penny when you make enough money to have fun and save. Don’t stress about spending money on travel; you’re on this earth to experience things.
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Your weight on a healthy diet

Maybe you dream of six pack abs. Maybe you wouldn’t hate it if your arms jiggled a tiny bit less. Maybe you stress about the fact that there is nothing you can do about that.
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What would you really change?

Okay, here is the reality: if you eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly, what would you really do differently to get that perfect body? Nothing. You’d have to exhaust yourself at the gym and restrict calories to the point of hunger. You know you won’t do those things, so stop stressing about your body. Whatever body results of a healthy lifestyle that you enjoy is a body you should love.
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You’re not social enough

You have a wine night with one group of friends twice a month, and you go jogging with your best friend every Sunday. Maybe you do a happy hour from time to time. But you see all of these people on Social media who are always at events. You don’t want to be at them, and yet it stresses you out that maybe you’re not social enough.
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Only you know what makes you happy

If you feel satisfied with your social life, that is all that should matter. You shouldn’t feel like you’re not allowed to feel satisfied with your social life because somebody else’s is busier. There will always be busier people, and less busy people, so don’t even go down that road.
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Your relationships might end

Maybe you’re in a romantic relationship and sometimes you panic at the thought that, in ten years, you may be divorced. Your partner may have cheated. You may have parted ways for one reason or another. This causes you stress.
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Everything has happened for a reason

If you’re divorced in ten years, that will be in ten years. That means that, over years, dynamics will have changed. Your priorities will have changed. Your personalities will have changed. That parting of ways won’t be spontaneous; it will feel natural. It probably won’t even happen! But don’t stress about it as if you will just wake up and everything will have changed. That’s not how it works. Anyways, just enjoy love while you have it.
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Your health

You should care, of course, about making your regular doctor’s visits and living a healthy lifestyle. But don’t obsess too much about the fact that you eat food with red dye in it once a month, or sometimes your produce isn’t organic.
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The stress is worse than the dye

If you have a few infrequent habits that aren’t exactly healthy, stressing about them is worse for your health than the habits themselves! So you eat red food dye in your favorite candy once a month; stressing about it the rest of the month is worse for you.
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Family that you don’t get along with

Maybe you have an in-law or an aunt with whom you just don’t see eye-to-eye on some pretty big issues. Maybe you spend nights awake thinking of perfectly worded speeches you’ll give that person to set them straight, tell them off or prove them wrong. That’s pretty stressful.
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They’re not going anywhere

If you want to tell off the rude barista at a coffee shop and never return to that coffee shop after that, okay. But if you tell off a family member, keep in mind that you still need to see them. So you can either “win” one interaction, setting up every future interaction to be even more combative or you can shut your mouth. Yup. Sometimes you have to pretend to like someone you don’t like because it’s more peaceful than the alternative.
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The speed of your career

You have goals and that’s a great thing. You don’t plan on being in the same place in your career in five years–that’s healthy! But you stress about the possibility of being in the same place in five years, and that’s not healthy.
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You’re doing all you can

If you know in your gut that you are doing everything you possibly can to advance your career, then there is no need to stress. Stressing is not a step towards your goals. If anything, it can affect your health, making it even harder to achieve your goals.
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People won’t like you

Whether it’s first dates or new friends, you worry that people you meet will not like you.
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You wouldn’t like them, either

Has it ever occurred to you that if somebody doesn’t like you, then they must have such vastly different value systems than your own that you also wouldn’t like them? Usually, if someone doesn’t like you, they just realized you’re incompatible before you realized it. But you would have.
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Liars and cheaters

Are you paranoid that people are lying to you? From coworkers to significant others to friends? Do you fear that they don’t mean what they say, and they don’t stand behind their word? That can be incredibly stressful.
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Life will reveal them

You don’t need to take it upon yourself to find out who is lying and cheating. Life has a way of revealing these people. Stressing about the possibility that someone is lying to you doesn’t help you discover the truth; the natural order of life will show you.

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