Things Every Woman Does When She Knows A Breakup Is Coming

September 22, 2016  |  
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If you look back at the final weeks of any relationship, you probably put your palm to your forehead in a little embarrassment realizing, “Oh my gosh. It was so clearly over long before it was over!” You know this because you recognize the same old habits, routines, and exit strategies that you’ve utilized at the start of every breakup. Usually, you’re not quite ready to end things completely when your subconscious starts to speak up about the fact that this relationship won’t do. So, instead, you make mini attempts to break up, or escape, the relationship. Then there are things you do that really have nothing to do with the boyfriend in question, but are just signs that you’ve emotionally pulled out of the relationship. If only men saw these signs they wouldn’t be totally caught off guard by the sentence, “We need to talk.” Like it or not, you know you do these things when approaching a breakup.

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Call your mom every day

Often when you feel unsettled in your life, like those first few months at college, or the first few weeks living alone in a new apartment, or the beginning of a breakup…you call your mom a lot. You’re not exactly sure why…you just need the option to air your thoughts out to someone who won’t hang up.
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Text a friend every detail

You text your friend to notify her of every little thing your partner is doing that’s bothering you. Your friend is practically getting a live, play-by-play on the progress of this breakup.
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Interview successful couples

You start taking a big interest in couples who have been together for a long time. You want to know their secrets–what makes them tick. You’re hoping they say things that do not apply to your relationship at all, so you can feel assured in your decision to break up with your guy.
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Talk about other couples you admire, to him

You purposefully mention couples you admire to your boyfriend, just to see what he says. You’re hoping that maybe he sees the beauty in their dynamics, and is willing to try to replicate them.
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Talk about other couples you admire, to everyone

You generally obsess over happy, successful couples. You understand on a subconscious level that you are not one of them, so you talk about them all of the time.
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Focus on a new guy

You start to focus on a new guy who is totally different than your guy. You don’t necessarily want to date him, but he is just a reference point for all the things that your partner is not.
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Take up a new hobby

Typically, when you’re unhappy in a relationship, it has become stale; things are too routine. So, you crave a chance to disrupt your routine, and you throw yourself into a new hobby.
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Nitpick everything

You stop letting little things slide, like the fact that he’s always ten minutes late, or the fact that he texts slowly, or the fact that he breathes heavily during movies.
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And picking blow out fights

You don’t just nitpick–oh no. You look for reasons to start huge fights. The type of fights that give you a reason to stay with a friend that night.
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Start planning trips without him

This is another response to how routine things have become. You start reaching out to old girlfriends, seeing if you can visit them in the foreign countries they now live in. You begin to map out a solo road trip. You haven’t even told your partner you’re doing this…
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Plan your social life without him

You fill up your weekends with plans with other people too. You don’t even consult your partner on his plans to see if he wanted to see you that weekend. And you certainly don’t invite him along.
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Date night is always movie night

If you must have a date night, you try to pick an activity that doesn’t require the two of you to talk. Date nights involve a lot of movies nowadays.
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Or a night you invite friends to

You really don’t want to spend too much alone time with your partner, so you’ve begun inviting friends to date night.
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Go to bed at a different time

You make no attempt to go to bed at the same time as him anymore. You don’t want to cuddle or have sex. In fact, you go out of your way to go to bed at a different time than him.
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Get up at a different time

You also pretend to be asleep when he wakes up in the morning, or you hop out of bed and leave the apartment while he’s still asleep.
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Feeling nauseous at his touch

You pull back a little when he touches you. You give him the cheek when he wanted a kiss on the lips. And you certainly don’t want to have sex.
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Suggest he’s interested in somebody else

Maybe you want the breakup to be his idea. Or, at least, his fault. So you start dropping little hints that he seems interested in somebody else. Maybe the hints aren’t little, and you full-on accuse him of cheating.
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Get very into your career

You throw yourself into your career more than you ever have. You ask to take on extra work; you even offer to do other people’s work. You just want an excuse not to spend time with your partner.
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Become generally nastier

You just don’t speak to your partner very kindly anymore. When he says your name, you answer with an annoyed tone. When you talk to him, you talk to him like he’s a moron.
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Try to recreate the good things

At some last ditch effort to save the relationship, you try to recreate the night you met, or your first date, or some really fun evening you spent together at the beginning of the relationships.

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