It’s Okay To Fake It! The Introvert’s Guide To Being Confident At Work
Of course you want to move up in your career, but being a networker and wheeler and dealer doesn’t come easy, especially to women who are introverted. But in order to take control of your career you have to appear to be confident–even when your palms are sweaty. “People like to work with people they trust. If someone is not confident in their abilities or even with themselves, then others won’t be confident about them either,” personal and professional development coach Amanda Flisher told us. “No matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert, we all gravitate towards people who are happy in their work and want to contribute. The more confident you are, the more confident you make those around you.”
Even if you are introverted, there are ways you can come across as a take-charge star to your coworkers and your boss. “You can certainly appear confident but what will make you confident is putting yourself into roles and situations that best suit your abilities, talents, areas of expertise and allow you to be who you are,”Flisher explained.
Here are a few ways to do that.
–Be your own pep squad. “No matter how intimidating these people may seem—everybody is human…So, don’t put pressure on yourself to be flawless either. It’s simply unnecessary,” reported The Every Girl.
–Tap into your strengths. “These are your natural ways of thinking, feeling and behaving. As you align yourself to those very qualities, the more confident you can speak to them in meetings, with your manager and with colleagues,” offered Flisher.
–Remember your achievements. “Build an ‘awesome you list’ and refer to it in moments where you lack confidence,” suggested “lifehacker”/personal development coach Kay Walker, founder of the Awesome Life Club. “Take some time to put together a list that of your greatness attributes, traits and successes, and the reasons why. Best to do it on your mobile phone so you can access it on-demand. When you need to be confident, read your list. It helps you focus in on the contribution you are.”
–Partner up. “Find power partners,” advised Flisher. “Partner with others on your team and in the organization who may fill the gaps to where you are not comfortable. Creating these relationships with someone where your talents and natural tendencies are needed is a win-win.”
–Ask questions and get someone else talking. “When you’re feeling overwhelmed, it can be tough to carry your side of a thoughtful conversation—simply because thoughts are swirling and your stomach is flipping over and over. So, asking questions of your conversational partner is a great way to show that you’re interested and engaged without having to craft your own eloquent prose,” reported The Every Girl.
–Be yourself. “Don’t try to be something you are not,” noted Flisher. “The best way for anyone to be more confident at work is to be themselves. That means knowing your strengths, needs, work values, and abilities. When we try to be something we are not, we will feel less aligned, not motivate and not confident. Confidence comes from knowing who you are and living it out.”
–Be conscious of your body language. “Your nonverbal cues can often say more than the words coming out of your mouth. You can have the most polished and well-rehearsed spiel, but if you say it all while biting your lip, rocking back and forth on your heels, and staring at the ground your body will convey otherwise. It won’t send a confident message,” reported The Every Girl. Maintain eye contact with the person you are speaking to and don’t slump, stand tall. And don’t forget to smile!