Every strong and independent woman knows that being an alpha female can serve you well in life. You’re not afraid to speak up for yourself, make your mark in the world, and get in right where you fit in.
But life is about yin and yang. And sometimes you want to access your softer side — even when it’s tough. Whether you want to ease the tension in your relationship, get along a little better with those who aren’t so bold and confident, or just open up a little bit more, here are a few tips that might help. It’s hard out here for a boss, but it doesn’t always have to be.
Let Him Take the Lead
Dance classes are great at helping you let go of a little control when you’re used to being the boss. Letting your partner lead in classes can help you trust someone else to take the reins.
Do Something He Knows About
And try your best not to Google everything about it beforehand. Relying on him to show you the ropes allows your partner to take the lead from time to time.
Practice Being Vulnerable
It’s hard to do, especially when you know that deep down you’re sensitive and you’ve been burned before. But letting yourself be vulnerable not only helps you access your softer side, but it can also help you get in closer touch with your authentic self.
When someone says or does something that stings, it’s only natural to put up a wall (or sting back). But when you just admit that you’re feeling some type of way, the honesty can help you get rid of the tension and tap into a softer side of yourself.
Ask for and Don’t Be Hesitant to Accept Help
Even if you’re used to saying “I’ve got it,” you never know what gifts other people have in store for you when you open up and let them help make your life a little easier. And people like it when they feel like they’re needed or helping someone in an important way.
Try on Something Lacy
For him? Sure. But also for you. Rocking something ultra feminine has a way of putting you in touch with your softer side.
Find a Role Model
We’ve all encountered someone who made us think “I wish I could be a little bit more like them.” Whether it’s a friend or a character in a movie, take heed of their way of doing things to help you with aspects of everyday life that you struggle with, including being more personable or not dominating every conversation and situation.
Don’t Talk Back
No matter what your spouse, kids or boss say, put a positive spin on it. Try to appreciate where they’re coming from (no matter how they put it), even if you don’t agree. You might be surprised at how some of your relationships change for the better.
It makes people around you more positive, and it can lower your stress levels (even if you don’t always mean it).
Even if you aren’t naturally a touchy-feely person, you can practice being more affectionate, which will definitely help you get in touch with your softer side.
Throw Compliments Around
Even when people are just doing what they’re supposed to do, it’s nice to compliment others. You will come off friendlier and you will also feel friendlier.
Sometimes looking more feminine can help you feel the part. Take a walk on the glamorous side and treat yourself to a makeover, spa day, and shopping trip.
Even if going glam isn’t your thing, spending time pampering and loving yourself can make it easier to pass the love on more freely.
There are self-help books on everything. Whatever your issue, you could be just a few pages away from the counsel you need.
Make Some Cuts
Sometimes we struggle to be softer because someone in our life is making us hard. If someone in your life is making it hard to let down your guard because they’re always throwing jabs, it might be time to take a break from that relationship.