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“I just knew that I needed to let go of a lot of things. So I married myself and I focused on me–how to love myself again and to let go of all past hurts.”

Fantasia Barrino

Fantasia and Quindara

Many blogs and websites have articles dedicated to uncovering the importance of self-love, illustrating how to build self-esteem and practice self-care, but it wasn’t until I met the beautiful Fantasia Barrino that I witnessed the evidence of doing that restorative work.

She came in the room with an entourage, but all I could sense was her kind and giving spirit. Fantasia greeted everyone with a hug and a side-kiss on the cheek, which surprised me –was she not afraid of germs? But what struck me most about this woman who is truly an idol, was hearing her speak. It was then that I truly learned she is something a of spiritual gem.

Though plenty of topics were covered in our interview with Fantasia on the heels of her album release, the most poignant point, for me, was her mention of spiritual fasting and how this process opened her heart to clearing her spirit and eventually meeting her husband. Fantasia explained how she stopped drinking, having sex, and even disallowed negative thoughts to permeate her head so that she could focus and feel bright again.

Don’t get me wrong, the idea that you need to clear the bad elements of your life (bad relationships, bad emotions, bad habits, bad people) is not something phenomenally new. However, seeing the peaceful and loving spirit that Fantasia exuded gave testimony to the power of letting certain things go in order to fully live and enjoy your life.

After the interview ended, the glitz and glamour exited the room but I still felt very inspired. When I returned home, I decided to clean out the clutter from my life. First, I went through my closet and got rid of clothes that no longer fit, were not flattering, and were plain worn out. Why keep filling my closet drawers? Next, I went through my cabinets and refrigerator to clean out old food. Whatever I could not donate, I trashed. Then, I went through my phone and deleted old phone numbers that I have not dialed in years. I also did a Facebook cleanse, deleting old friends who I never really liked in the first place. Finally, I decided on letting go of a few friendships that were causing me stress or disdain. Why keep these people in mind if they only burdened or suffocated me?

I felt free. I felt loved. I felt spiritually cleansed after doing these things. But this was just the first step… now it’s time for the manifestations of this cleansing process to begin presenting themselves in my life. But I want Fantasia to know how she inspired a young woman on the move to take the first steps to let go of unnecessary foolishness and in turn love herself; and I hope I can encourage one of you to do the same.


Catch Fantasia’s interview with us below.


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