Signs You Feel Totally At Home With Your Boo’s Family
When you find the right partner, you’ll feel right at home with his family. Your body instinctively knows that his family will be your family one day, and so you quickly start behaving around them the same way you behave around your own blood relatives. That means you don’t suck up, you don’t make conversation for conversation’s sake, you don’t fear judgment every second, and you generally let it all hang out. When you’re with the wrong guy and know it, you can’t help but try to get every moment with his family perfect, because you know your moments with them are limited. But when you’re with the right guy, you know you have a lifetime to bond with his relatives, so you’re more relaxed. You’ll know it when it happens, but in case you need some guidance, here are 20 signs you feel totally at home with your boyfriend’s family.
You can sleep in
You don’t feel like a total bum for sleeping until noon when you stay with them. You know that they know you need the rest, so you don’t pop up at 6:30 am riddled with anxiety over making a good impression.
You’ll have a few drinks
You no longer stick to one drink and sip it slowly. You’ll throw a few back when you’re hanging with your boo’s family because the vibe is relaxed and celebratory.
You don’t try to keep up the (unbelievable) illusion that you never say bad words. You swear, and you even talk a little sh*t about some people that you don’t like. You’re okay with showing that you’re not innocent and “pure.”
You’re all about the PDA
You’re openly and freely affectionate with your boo. With past partners, you subconsciously didn’t want their parents to get their hopes up, so you withheld PDA around them. But you know this is your guy for life, so you give him all the love you want in front of his family.
You tease your partner in front of them
You tease your partner. You aren’t afraid that his family will think you’re too critical, or that you’re a bitch. They know your teasing comes from a loving place, and you know they know that.
You tease them
You can even tease them! If his dad is a little OCD or his mom loves white wine at 3 pm, you’ll crack some jokes about it, and they’ll laugh.
You’ll hang with them solo
You don’t freak out if your partner has to leave you alone with his parents for a few hours. In fact, sometimes you ask them to hang out on your own.
You try to get out of doing dishes
You’ve stopped pretending that you love doing the dishes. You partake in the game of, “If you do the dishes, I’ll do this other thing.”
You zone out
Zoning out is par for the course when you’re hanging out with family! So if you catch yourself day dreaming and failing to pay attention to the table conversation, then you know you feel at home.
You wear what you want to wear
You no longer pretend that your wardrobe is made up of nothing but khaki capris, cardigans, button-up blouses and bejeweled ballerina flats. You’ll show a little side boob without fear.
You wear no bra with your pajamas
Oh yeah, and when you stay at their place, you no longer wear a bra under your old college t-shirt and pajama bottoms. Come on. They know you don’t sleep in a bra. And nipping out is for the family.
You admit things aren’t perfect
You don’t feel the need to be positive and perky all of the time. You can tell them that you’re unhappy at your job, or that you don’t get along with your own family.
They fight in front of you
If his family fights in front of you, consider it a compliment—it means they sense how comfortable you are with them, so they aren’t afraid to fight.
You get involved in the fights
You no longer say, “This isn’t my place. I should stay out of this” when they ask you, “What do you think?” mid-fight. Now, you put in your two cents.
You tell them about your health issues
You’re open with them about your digestive issues. You tell them when you have bad PMS. Hey—your boo’s dad buys you ice cream for your PMS.
You tell them about your exes
You can talk openly to them about your past relationships, why those didn’t work out and why this one will.
You sit out sometimes
You don’t fake it if you’re just not interested in the family outing to the Koi pond. If you want to stay in while everybody goes out, you just stay in.
You talk to them about online dating
If your boo’s parents are divorced and one or both are now online dating, you talk to them about it. You sit with them at the computer, chit chatting about their matches and helping them pick out profile pictures.
You call them, just to say hi
Sometimes, you genuinely miss your boo’s family. Sometimes you call them, just to say hello, the way you do with your own family.
You ask them for life advice
You call your boyfriend’s family to ask for advice on negotiating down a car price, choosing the best doctor and calculating tax deductibles.