Men, These Are The Times We Secretly Need You To Be Extra Sensitive
If you’re in a relationship with a woman, then you probably experience days when it seems like everything you say comes out wrong; your words are constantly met with a death glare, and the more you try to fix it, the deeper in the hole you go. If it makes no sense to you, it’s probably because your lady is feeling extra sensitive and she doesn’t really no why. She knows what happened, but she doesn’t know why it affected her so much so you have to learn to figure out the scenarios and situations that touch a nerve with her than most. When these things come up, be extra careful with your words because, while your partner might usually be able to take a joke, right now she just needs loving words. Here are 19 times women secretly need you to be extra sensitive.
After she got in a fight with her Best friend
When a woman is in a fight with her BFF, she feels like someone just cut another umbilical cord she didn’t even know she had. Best friend relationships between women are complex, but you can believe when we’re in a fight with our BF, we are teeming with anger and guilt—we want to prove we’re right, and we also just feel really sad. This is not a good day to tease us for doing something wrong around the house.
After she got in a fight with her mom
After we’ve been fighting with our mom, our blood is boiling. It’s a safe bet that when a woman fights with her mother, it’s because her mother tried to tell her what to do, and she got angry that her mom would try that at this age—or some variation of that. You have to take your partner’s side—no, it doesn’t matter who was right or wrong.
When she’s on her period (come on)
This one should be a given but some men think PMS is a myth. It is not a myth. It is a biological and completely ordinary process that leaves us feeling like the world is ending. So please…just…do not ditch us for a pub crawl when we are PMSing. Stay home and ask us what movie we want to watch. We do not want to ask you to do this.
After a man harassed her
Men will never quite understand what it feels like for a woman to be cat-called, or to have a stranger grab her a–. But I can tell you after this happens, we pretty much hate all men for the next few hours. Do not try to defend mankind when we were just harassed by a man.
After a man harassed her online
This is a harder one to track, but if a man has harassed your partner online, she’ll be particularly sensitive. To harass a woman online combines complete disrespect and complete cowardice (men can harass from the safety of their computer). It makes us see red.
After a boss patronized her
Even if your partner knows she is smart and competent, if her boss or superior implies she isn’t, it will stick with her for a few days. Now isn’t the time to tell her she messed up fixing the toilet or filing for a change of address; silently fix those things yourself.
After we’ve cried in a movie…that wasn’t sad
Yeah, sometimes we cry in movies that don’t really warrant crying. But you never know what exactly about that movie elicited strong emotions in us. We’re feeling emotion for some reason; it just may not be that the server in the film got fired.
When she’s not invited to the wedding/birthday/anniversary
If your girlfriend or wife isn’t invited to the wedding of somebody she thought she was close with, this will hurt her more than she lets on. Tread lightly in the coming days because she’s probably asking herself, “Do I even have any real friends?”
If she’s been talking about her body a lot
Take note if your partner has been making comments about having put on weight lately. She may say, “It’s no big deal I don’t care” but it is a big deal, and she does care. Tell her a little more than usual how gorgeous she is.
When we are crying
If we begin crying in a fight, we aren’t trying to manipulate you; the tension is just literally so high that we can no longer function. You aren’t admitting defeat by stopping your argument and consoling us. You can give us a silent hug and say, “We can just finish this talk later.”
After we’ve been crying
There is something in the air after we’ve had a big cry. Even if we weren’t crying about you, you still can’t start blasting music and calling friends to come over and drink once our tears are dry.
When her BF went through a breakup
We feel what our best friend feels, so when our BF goes through a breakup, it’s kind of like we are. In other words, you have to let us talk about it as much as we want, and you have to make us feel less sad for our friend. Just go with it.
When she hasn’t had time to herself
If your partner has been so busy lately that she hasn’t had time for her calming routines like yoga or meditation, be very careful. She feels like the whole world doesn’t care about her wellbeing, and you don’t want to be associated with them.
Believe me; so many people do stupid, stupid things on your partner’s birthday. Some mean ex-boyfriend definitely sent her a “Happy Birthday” text. Her mom probably said something about how she’s not married yet. Just…do no harm on her birthday.
When we’ve felt inadequate in bed
If you’ve had a romp session where she became insecure and thought she was doing something weird or “wrong,” you have to go out of your way to make her feel like a sex goddess. Yes, you do.
When she tells you about an ex
If she tells you about a time an ex really hurt her, you have to suck it up and sympathize. It might be strange to hear about her ex, but she is trying to explain something to you about her past and her experiences.
When she struggles with anxiety
If your partner struggles with anxiety, she probably doesn’t want to be at a crowded concert or party. But having to tell you, “We have to stay home because of my anxiety” only adds guilt to her anxiety. You need to read the situation and offer that you stay home and do something quiet together.
When you travel without her
If you go on a super fun trip that she couldn’t afford to go on or didn’t have time to go on, make sure you reach out to her a lot on that trip. Otherwise, she’ll feel like you don’t feel bad at all that she’s sitting at home.
When she feels herself aging
If you hear your partner making little jokes about her crows feet or sagging breasts, make sure to pay her extra attention and tell her how hot she is. You know you need that when you find gray hairs.