How To Be The Perfect Guest At Any Wedding
Weddings are stressful with a capital “S.” That goes double during wedding season when it seems like everyone is making an attempt to tie the knot at the same time. Not only are engaged couples being asked to attend other people’s nuptials, but it’s also hot outside, tempers are short, bank accounts are empty, and there are always a few people who want to feel important on someone else’s day.
The best way to get through wedding season and help the bride get through it as well? Go the extra mile to be the best guest you can be. The summer may be crazy, but it’s also when we’re all creating the memories that will last a lifetime. Do your favorite brides a favor by being this kind of guest at their wedding. Or, at the very least, avoid accidentally (or purposely) doing something that leaves them with less-than-fond memories on their big day.
Give Her Cash
If you know it’s what the couple needs most, here are a few fun ways to gift money in a creative way.
RSVP on Time
Or at least four weeks in advance. Don’t make people have to track you down. The bride won’t have to scramble to find space for you if you follow the “RSVP by” instructions.
Don’t Assume Kids Are Invited
Very few brides come out and say “leave the kids at home.” But the general rule of thumb is that if just the adults’ names are on the invitation, it’s safe to say that the couple would prefer that you find a sitter if possible. If your kids’ names aren’t listed or you don’t see anything about “and family,” they may not be included in the guest count at the wedding.
Get There 30 Minutes Early
Being in your seat a half hour before the ceremony is scheduled to start is on time on the wedding clock. Even if the ceremony is running late, at least you won’t be part of the stress.
Running late despite your best efforts? If the ceremony has already started, peek in from outside until the ceremony is over (or someone invites you in) so you don’t accidentally interrupt a big moment.
Don’t Take Pictures at the Ceremony
Unless the bride requests photos. She may want to look out and see everyone enjoying the moment, not ended up blinded by your flash.
Do Take One at the Reception
Snap a few candid, under-the-radar photos of the bride and groom having a romantic moment. Then, down the line, surprise them with a photo or two that will make the perfect anniversary present.
Don’t Take Full Advantage of the Open Bar
When you’re having fun, it’s easy to get more inebriated than you think you are. And no one wants to be that wedding guest. Better yet, no one wants to deal with that wedding guest.
Ask Before You Post
If the wedding doesn’t come with a hashtag, she may not want it all over social media. It’s better to be sure that you have the OK so you don’t end up ruffling any feathers.
Keep Your Toast Short and Sweet
Try these tips on how to make yours memorable (or figure out whether or not you’re comfortable enough to give one at all).
Don’t Take Things Home As Keepsakes
Not unless you have the OK. Sometimes those items have to be returned to the venue or the bride will lose part of her deposit.
Mail Your Gift
If it’s big enough to be a burden to carry home, or even small enough to get lost, ship it to the couple’s home. She’ll appreciate having one less thing to worry about.
Assume She Had A Reason for Leaving Out Your Plus-One
Unless you’re married or in a long-term relationship, it probably wasn’t an accident. She may not have had room in the venue or the budget to include anyone else.
Don’t Wear Anything Close to White
That includes silver, very light pastels and anything in that color family. Brides are sensitive on their big day and you don’t want there to be a misunderstanding.
Let It Slide
Even if the bride becomes Bridezilla and takes things to another level. Weddings make everybody act up. She will be back to normal in no time.