10 Tips For Being More Spontaneous
Everyone seems to be super busy these days. With jam-packed work and/or school schedules, not to mention your home and social life, that leaves little room for a wonderful thing called spontaneity. Without it, we can easily find ourselves stuck in a boring rut, caught up in the rat race. But spontaneity often gets a bad rap. People mistakenly assume that being spontaneous is the equivalent of YOLO (“You only live once”), a term that has very little to do with seizing the day and living life to the fullest, and is often used to justify reckless behavior.
Spontaneity can be simple, and you can make room for it in your day-to-day life, whether at work or in your personal relationships with your significant other, family and friends. Imagine how much things could change for the better if you purposefully left room for being open. Not sure what being more spontaneous might entail? Here are a few simple and straightforward suggestions to help get you started.
Being spontaneous doesn’t mean you should up and drive cross-country just for the heck of it. Spontaneity is something you can tackle in small doses. That can equate to something as simple as trying a different drink at your favorite coffee spot or ordering a different meal at your favorite restaurant.
Take Another Route
Doing things differently, even something as simple as taking a different route to work, can lead to fortuitous changes and surprises in your life. The flexibility that comes from breaking out of your daily routines can spark innovation.
Call an Old Friend
They don’t have to be old, per se, but there’s nothing like an actual phone call, not an email or a text, to a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. You’ll both be in for a lovely surprise.
That thing you’ve been wanting to do for ages now? Do it. It may not happen at the snap of a finger, but decide to do it and watch yourself work miracles to make it happen. Also, make a conscientious decision to forgo waiting for the “right” time.
See Something Live
The rhythms, the lights, the action. The arts truly have a way of awakening, feeding, and replenishing the soul, and nothing beats going to a live concert or a play.
Scheduling room for spontaneity kind of defeats the purpose of spontaneity, no? Well, not necessarily. If your day is that full, carve out some “me” time and fill it with something that will bring you some unexpected joy.
There’s a reason why Shonda Rhimes said “yes” for a year. In her book, Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person, she writes about how doing so changed her life. Step out of your comfort zone. Do something that scares you. What changes do you think will come in your life if you commit to saying “yes” for a change?
Get Off Your Phone
If your cell phone is your constant companion, one you use as a crutch or distraction, untether yourself from its alluring grasp for a couple hours. Force yourself to engage and interact with the people around you.
I don’t need to tell you that exercise does wonders for your mental and physical health. That, you already know. But do you know it’s good to switch up your exercise routine? Now that it’s summer, go for a walk – in your neighborhood, a nearby park, or another place of your choosing. Or how about getting into the hula-hoop?
Talk to Strangers
Strike up a conversation with a perfect stranger. You never know what it could lead to.