Living as a man and living as a woman are two totally different experiences. Not only are women biologically and psychologically different from men, society responds to us women in very different ways. Most men, being in the dominant group may not recognize this, the role they play in the system and the privilege they’ve enjoyed from birth. But life give us the experiences we need. There are quite a few superstitions about why certain people are given certain children to raise. See the line from Nas’ song “Daughters.” “They say the coolest playas and foulest heartbreakers in the world/God gets us back, He makes us have precious, little girls.” In honor of Father’s Day we asked some of our male readers the lessons and insights about women they learned while raising daughters. See what they had to say.
Be her first love
That I spent the majority of my life not being a good man, not understanding the need for feminism, and not appreciating a woman as more than a spouse/mother… Most importantly that I needed to make some fundamental changes to my perspective and approach to life, in regards to women!
That they are very sensitive about the things they care about.
I have two daughters, ages 19 and 23. They are smart, beautiful and accomplished young women. My job has been to love and guide them and be an example for them and their 2 brothers. My girls, Sofia and Daniela, have taught me to love unconditionally, to live life to its fullest and to respect them for who they are as people. They remind me every day that women can do and be anything they want. They teach me to be sensitive and that I don’t always have to be right. They reinforce my belief that we should love, respect and accept all people regardless of gender, race, religion or sexual orientation.
My daughter taught me to have patience and how to uplift women, see the beauty of a person and respect them. She also taught me, overall, how to be a better man, the man I would like for her to choose someday when I allow her to date in her 40’s. Lol
I’ve learned how vulnerable they are from the beginning. I’ve come to understand the societal need for praise and attention that’s so many innovative companies have found different ways to take advantage of. I’ve learned the father’s as the first man in a woman’s life have an extremely important role to play as a buffer against the harsh experiences life has to offer women. I’ve learned how societal expectations start to affect women at an extremely early age. Therefore, I have a much better appreciation for the role father’s play in their daughters lives when it comes to the expectations women have for themselves as adults and their self-esteem.