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Speaking of divorce, a new study says that women are much better at bouncing back after ending a marriage than their male counterparts.

According to a national survey conducted by Avvo, 73 percent of divorced women say that they ended their marriages with no regrets, while only 61 percent of divorced men could say the same. This same study revealed that most women prefer to be happy, alone, and successful as opposed to being miserable in a failing marriage.

Sociologist and sexologist Dr. Pepper Schwartz reasons that men are often fearful of being on their own after living as a married person for so long.

“Men are more fearful of being on their own once they’ve been domesticated by their marriage, and even though men are more likely to think that marriage is an outdated institution on principle – they’re more likely to want to stay put even if things aren’t so great,” observed Schwartz. “Women, on the other hand, prize happiness over marriage, and are less fearful of independence generally. Whatever the underlying reasons, both partners have a role in a relationship not working, women included – even if that means as a partner, making more mistakes that you care to admit, or even choosing the wrong partner.”

Interestingly, the study also found that women are less likely to own up to their mistakes when the marriage is over. When asked who was to blame for the marriage ending, 64 percent of women blamed their spouses while only 44 percent of men said the same. When asked if both parties should share the blame, 42 percent of men and 29 percent of women said yes.

“As the saying goes, it takes two to tango and two to ruin a relationship, but women are less likely to take their share of the blame,” Schwartz said. “Gender roles and traditional stereotypes of domestic partnerships absolutely play a role here. It might be that women believe that self-blame is not empowering, and men may feel as though it’s not masculine to blame their wives.”

H/t Essence

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