How To Keep Drama From Ruining Your Day
Drama is the worst. You came to work, ready to sit down at your desk and mind your own business. Then suddenly, here it comes: a spectacle. Some days it’s your co-worker with all her chaos, and other days it’s your ex bombarding your phone with messages. Wherever it comes from, it threatens to ruin your good day. But why do other people get to be in control of your mood?
Unfortunately, you can’t control the drama that other people bring. But you can control how that drama affects your outlook. Try these guidelines for keeping your life drama free and you will find yourself unbothered when people try to come anything but correct. Bring on the shade. You will be able to shake off that load in no time.
Do you have your own personal tactics for dealing with drama when it gets to be too much? We’d love to add some pointers to our list, so feel free to share yours in the comment section.
Don’t Talk About It
Every time you retell the story about what so and so did to ruin your day, they’re ruining it all over again. Don’t pay attention to their shenanigans.
Don’t Think About It
Take deep breaths, distract yourself or do whatever you need to do to drive their behavior from your mind. Don’t give any energy to it and it won’t take any energy from you.
Feel Sorry for Them
People who constantly send out negativity do it because they feel negatively inside. Instead of getting mad, know that it’s coming from a place of pain–and then move on with your day.
Challenge yourself not to say or think anything negative all day — even when drama is everywhere. With practice you can become the kind of positive person who just isn’t affected by conflict.
Some shade hits a nerve because it touches on something we’re not happy about with ourselves. Instead of getting mad, put your energy into improving whatever situation is holding you back internally.
Even when what they say is begging for a stinging response, and even when they’re dead wrong, just smile and ignore. Then count your lack of a response as a win when they have to miss you with the bull.
Take Your Power Back
You’re the person who decides whether or not to get upset. Decide not to let other people’s emotions and issues affect you and move on with your day.
Avoid Them If You Can
If that means telling the queen of low-key shade, a.k.a., your least-favorite co-worker that you’re too busy to chat, so be it.
If you can’t avoid the drama, stay too busy to give it the time to affect your day. Worry about your productivity.
Turn on Your Favorite Tune
Play the song that always puts a smile on your face and really tune in. Do it every time you need to turn your mood around and you will train your brain to feel happier every time it comes on.
People who exercise have naturally better moods that stick with them long after the workout is over.
Cut It Off
Whether it’s your job, your spouse or your “friend,” don’t be afraid to cut them off. Even if that means making big changes. It may be hard or uncomfortable, but it won’t be anywhere near as bad as the misery they’re bringing into your life.
Take Some Me Time
Can’t get the drama off of your mind? Dedicate your evening to doing something you love until you feel better. Repeat tomorrow, and every day, if necessary.
Seek Out Positive People
Sometimes combating negativity is all about balance. If you can’t avoid or cut out negative people in your life, balance the scales with positive people. Their attitudes will affect you, but in an uplifting and motivating way.