When I started dating my sophomore year of high school, I guess my mom figured there was strength in numbers when it came to thirsty senior guys plotting on my virginity. In defense, the only caveat that came with my early dating days was that I had to go out with a group of friends and not just the one guy. Unfortunately, a majority of the time those “group dates” turned into a threesome (not the sexual kind) of myself, whatever crush I had at the time and my single, dateless BFF. What I didn’t know was that it would be the beginning of a very long journey through love with a trusty third wheel.
Don’t get me wrong, I love having a friend to get my girl power on with whenever my husband say something completely chauvinistic and needs to be checked and no one wants to spend every single second of their free time up under their partner. However, I was the girl in the group who has always had a boyfriend and I am not sure if that is always a good thing. Either way if I wanted to see a movie, grab some Mexican food, go bowling, I’ve always had the comfort of knowing I didn’t have to ever be anyone’s third wheel, but for whatever reason, many of my friends have always had issues dating. I don’t think anyone should stay in an unhealthy relationship riddled with breakups and Facebook beef just to have someone to kick it with, but for some reason my friends can never even seem to find a guy who just wants to catch the latest Insidious flick and share some pretzels and cheese. Even today my husband and I aren’t attached at the hip, but in past long-term relationships I inevitably have always found myself juggling being girly and affectionate on a date night with my dude with cracking jokes with my BFF and obsessing over whether she’s really enjoying herself.
Look, I’m completely sympathetic to the fact that most women aren’t tripping out of their yoga pants to be the third wheel for their coupled up friends. But here’s a shocker for you if you’re completely unaware: Having a third wheel in tow can be awkward for everyone involved. I’m blessed to have a variety of people in my life that I love and most days I want us all to have fun together. But the truth is this world just isn’t designed for parties of three. For some reason odd numbers make otherwise fun and normal situations awkward, difficult and expensive. If you weren’t already feeling the slightest bit squeaky, here are a few more ways your third wheel status is making life a little more challenging for everyone involved: