Fertility awareness has been front and center over the past year. A host of celebrities from Tyra Banks to Chrissy Teigen have opened up about struggling to conceive. More recently, Evelyn Lozada opened up about suffering her second miscarriage since giving birth to her son two years ago. We were able to catch up with the reality star, who discussed her plans to continue trying for a baby, her upcoming wedding, and the new season of her reality show, “Livin’ Lozada”.
MN: What can we expect from the new season of “Livin’ Lozada”?
Well, one of the main things that I talk about—and it’s starting become public now—is that I had another miscarriage on Thanksgiving, and the cameras were with me during that whole process. So you know, me miscarrying, my struggles with fertility and trying to figure out what’s happening because obviously, I had my son two years ago and everything was fine. I’m very open about that. Shaniece opens about how my past relationships and friendships have affected her life, which is news to me because I didn’t really know that until I started filming. I mentor a young lady on the show, which is cool. She’s 17 and pregnant. I’m still mentoring her now. So you’ll see me on the show. It’s interesting just meeting with her and just remembering that I was that same person years ago. And you’ll see all of that on the show. And of course, you’ll see me as a mom.
MN: When you miscarried on Thanksgiving, you chose not to say anything to anyone during the holiday. I know that had to be traumatic. How did you manage to masque your emotions?
It was Thanksgiving and we were at my fiancé’s family’s house. I always say that when they watch the show, they’re probably never going to believe that I miscarried that day because I kept it together. But I feel like being around his family really helped me because it kept my mind off of it in a sense because there were so many people there. It was my second one. I knew that there’s nothing I could do to change it, so I was going to make the most out of the situation. My son was with his dad’s side of the family and they were super excited that we were there. When I got back to the house, I cried and I prayed and I dealt with it then, but I didn’t let it break me down. It’s out of your control. What are you going to do? There’s nothing to reverse that.
MN: Do you know why this keeps happening?
Well, you’ll see my journey on the show, through vaginal appointments and everything. But just because I want to be very, very transparent with my process and my story. But really, there’s no clear answer other than I’m pushing 40 and some of my eggs are a little more mature than others. Other than that, I’m pretty healthy. I’m like, gosh, things have changed so much in the past two years, but, it does. Your body changes and although you feel great, things are going on internally that you don’t realize.
MN: Are you open to pursuing other options for carrying or conceiving or are you still trying the traditional way?
Right now, it’s the traditional way. And you’ll see that be the end of the season, I’m struggling like, “Well, what do I do?” because obviously I need to make a decision soon, right? So you know, I still don’t know where I’m going with that.
MN: How difficult is it for you to relive these things on television?
It’s not easy, but I also look at it like I want women to be more open to having these discussions. A lot of women don’t talk about miscarriage. A lot of women are ashamed and feel responsible. That’s the reason why I’m so public about mine because me knowing that it’s more common is healing and it helps me. Now that I’ve opened up about mine, a few girls told me that they miscarried and I had no idea. It’s a conversation that doesn’t really take place, but it helps the healing process when you talk about it. You know, like, “Oh, okay. It’s not just me. It’s not my fault. This just happens.”
MN: Well, switching gears to something a little lighter. We love weddings. Are you open to sharing any of your wedding plans?
When we plan and finally do it—because it’s been crazy—he works a lot and when he’s not working, I’m filming. And then we’re trying to have a baby and I’m dealing with miscarriages and then we have a toddler. It’s been a lot going on. It’s not something I’m going to announce to the world. You’ll probably know about it once it’s done and over with. I’m very private about my personal life—or I try to be.
MN: How has your relationship with your daughter changed now that she’s older?
We’ve gotten closer. I was a child having a child, so we could always relate with a lot of things. We liked the same clothes and we like the same things. That’s been great, and as she gets older and evolves, we get closer. It’s great to see your children grow up and become great people. She’s a great young woman.
“Livin’ Lozada” returns with all-new episodes this Saturday, May 7th at 10pm on OWN.