How To Be Kind To Yourself

May 4, 2016  |  
1 of 10

Image Source: Shutterstock

Image Source: Shutterstock

There’s enough stress in our daily lives. Work is hectic. Our relationships can put us on an emotional rollercoaster, and life, in general, can try and throw you off of your focus.  But if we’re not careful or mindful, sometimes we can add to that stress by being our own worst critic.  That harsh bully of an inner critic rears its ugly head whenever we make a mistake, compare ourselves to others, are doubtful of our abilities…the list goes on and on.  The good news is, there are many ways to counter that negativity, ways that aren’t as complicated as you would think.  Investing in your health and wellness and being kind to yourself is a necessary act of self-care.  No one else can do it for you, after all. So here are a few ways you can start the process of being kind to yourself.  Here’s to better living!

Image Source: Shutterstock

Image Source: Shutterstock

Develop A Self-Love Mantra

Practicing a self-love mantra on a regular basis will help you change your inner monologue – you know, the one that tells you that you’re not good enough.  Replace that negativity with loving, healing words that can boost your confidence and self-esteem and bring you lasting happiness.

Black woman comparison

Forgo Comparison

Theodore Roosevelt famously said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”   Whenever you find yourself tumbling down that murky rabbit hole, make a conscious decision to stop.

"black professionals"

Let Go Of The Past

Anyone who suggests you simply let go of the past must think you can do that with the snap of a finger.  But life doesn’t work that way.  It takes time to heal and to move on.  But if whatever happened to you in the distant or recent past is affecting your daily existence in very negative, harmful ways, consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor.

Image Source: Shutterstock

Image Source: Shutterstock

Feel Your Feelings

There’s nothing wrong with feeling the way you do.  Don’t be so quick to distract yourself when a particular feeling arises.  And don’t be so quick to negate your emotions.  Awareness can bring positive results and lasting change.

Image Source: Shutterstock

Image Source: Shutterstock

Accept A Challenge

Accepting a new challenge can help you to remove the limits you unknowingly (or knowingly) put on yourself.  So, go ahead.  Walk a marathon, enroll in a course, take a new job.  You’ll be surprised at what you can accomplish.

"woman shrugging pf"


Embrace Mistakes

If you are living and breathing, you have made mistakes and will continue to do so.  But don’t be so quick to beat yourself up when you do, even if the mistake is one you’ve made before.  Forgive yourself.  When you know better, you do better.

the best time to do everything

Image Source: Shutterstock


There’s no such thing as an overnight success.  The same can be said about change.  It’s not easy to live a healthier lifestyle, to lose weight, to kick a bad habit.  But once you’re willing to do the necessary work and find the solutions you need, change will happen.

Source: Shutterstock

Source: Shutterstock


Stigmas be damned.  There’s nothing wrong with seeking the help of a trained professional. Your mind, body and soul will thank you for it.

morning rituals

Image Source:


Pay yourself a compliment (or two or three) on a daily basis.  No compliment is too silly or small.  Did you cook a delicious meal?  Is your outfit on point?  Did you drive to work without flipping anyone off?  That deserves kudos!

Trending on MadameNoire

View Comments
Comment Disclaimer: Comments that contain profane or derogatory language, video links or exceed 200 words will require approval by a moderator before appearing in the comment section. XOXO-MN
blog comments powered by Disqus