For one reason or another, we just can’t stop talking about Ayesha Curry. But perhaps what sealed her position in pop culture relevancy was the tweet heard and seen around the world. You remember it don’t you?
It caused much discussion and debate. Some saw it as a woman simply stating her preference. Others felt as if there was an undertone of judgment. And men, of the misogynistic variety, used it as ammunition to shame other women. They called us hoes if we didn’t agree with Ayesha’s tweet and lamented the “fact” that there weren’t any more decent women in the world.
But it didn’t stop there. When it was rumored that Kehlani cheated on her boyfriend Kyrie Irving, people immediately started comparing her to Ayesha. Again men, Black men specifically, on social media shared their dating struggles with clever phrases like, “Trying to find an Ayesha in a world full of Kehlanis.”
There was more. Then the memes came. I’m sure you’ve seen these around.
And while they are funny in the highlighting of double standards and scrutiny far too many Black women face, I guarantee there are some people who find them funny because they believe the act of shaming other women for their choices is productive.
Thankfully, Ayesha Curry doesn’t see it that way.
In a recent interview Essence magazine asked Ayesha whether or not she found the memes hurtful. Here’s what she had to say.
It’s not hurtful. It doesn’t affect my personal life but it just doesn’t make sense to me. I wonder why people are so hateful sometimes. I just don’t get it. I want people to know these memes aren’t coming from me and I didn’t endorse them. I have a feeling whoever is making them is mostly men trying to pin women against each other and that’s something I don’t stand for especially with us Black women. I just wish we could support each other a little bit more. I want everybody to succeed.