Should You Invite Your Coworkers To Your Wedding? 4 Questions To Ask Yourself
“Should I invite my coworkers to my wedding?”
This is a question that probably plagues the mind of every working bride at one point or another. And the truth is, the answer to this question is not black and white. There are several factors that you should take into consideration when weighing whether or not it’s a good idea for your colleagues to be present on your big day. Here are four questions you should ask yourself that will hopefully help you to arrive at a decision that best suits your situation.
Do you socialize outside of work?
If you don’t have a relationship that transcends the walls of your workplace, you should really ask yourself why you’re even considering inviting these folks to something as intimate as your wedding. Your ceremony is a time when the people you love come together to celebrate the fact that you’ve found someone with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. If y’all aren’t cool like that, please, please, please don’t feel obligated to invite them.
Do you trust them?
As I stated before, weddings are very intimate and personal celebrations. They’re also information gold mines for incredibly nosy people.You don’t want someone there who is going to act as a spectator and collect as much information as they can with the intent of carrying it back to the other office gossips. Please know that if you invite the wrong person (or people), there’s a good chance that you and your family will end up as topics of office gossip when all is said and done.
Can they keep their mouths shut?
Space is often limited at wedding venues, so that places a cap on how many people you can invite. And even if you are considering inviting some coworkers, it’s unlikely that you’re inviting all of them. Of course, inviting some colleagues but not others can create quite an awkward environment, so it’s crucial that you encourage the ones you are planning to invite to refrain from discussing the fact that they’re on the guest list to coworkers who were not as fortunate. In fact, they should refrain from discussing your upcoming wedding in the workplace altogether.
Can you afford it?
To me, this is probably the most important question. Weddings are expensive, and those guest lists get out of control quickly. It’s likely that you’ll go through several rounds of cuts before your list is finalized. If you can’t afford to invite your coworkers, don’t invite them. They will get over it and your wallet will thank you.