Practical Tips For Surviving These Common Pre-Wedding Arguments
When it feels like your future in-laws are trying to hijack your wedding
This is a delicate area because there is a balance of the vision that the couple has of the wedding, and the in-laws wanting to feel like they are apart of the celebration and the planning. I know that it can come across at times as overbearing, but underneath it all most in-laws really want to feel like they are contributing in some ways and are excited (sometimes too excited admittedly) about telling you what their ideas and vision are. Be polite and respectful but its okay to advocate for yourself and wedding. You and your partner have to be united about your vision together and share that with your in-laws. You won’t get their approval many times and that is something you have to be ok with. However, there is some generosity that can be shared with them as well to incorporate some aspects of the wedding that are most important to them, and talk to them about WHY it is so important to understand the meaning behind it. By doing this you are sending the message that you are united as a couple, but value and respect their input as well, which can strengthen the bond you have with your new family moving forward.
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