Practical Tips For Surviving These Common Pre-Wedding Arguments
When you feel like you’re doing all of the planning alone
I typically hear this from brides that have a particular vision for their wedding. These are women that are very detailed oriented, have a very high standard, and impeccable taste. They are also the people that take on a lot of responsibility in their everyday life, so her wedding is no different. They don’t always ask for help until they are completely overwhelmed or at their wits end, and hope that their partner can pick up on the cues and show interest in the planning process without being prompted to.
In order to get some support during the process, there are different ways your fiancé can contribute to the wedding process. Some give financially, some give their opinion,s and others offer their emotional support. I see many partners help closer to the wedding day by running errands and picking people up from the airport. Perhaps they may have no interest in napkin swatches or favors, but could be your backbone when dealing with issues that come up with the wedding, or a shoulder to cry on if there’s frustration with a vendor.
Of course, you want to feel that you have a partner in the planning process and that you’re not in it alone, but you also have to communicate and meet them where they are at. It is all about engaging your fiancee in a way that makes them feel like their contribution matters as well, even if it may not be the way in which you imagine the support. Ask your partner about what are the aspects of the wedding they are interested in and can handle, and let go. Know they are trying their best and in the end, their contribution (or lack thereof) doesn’t get in the way of how much they love and are excited to marry you.