Could Your Date Be Intimidated By You?
Have you ever started flirting with someone and flat-out wondered, “What’s wrong with this guy?”
Meaning, things seemed like they were going great and then, nothing? Instead of asking you for your phone number, he just gave you an awkward goodbye hug and walked away, even though you thought the sparks were still flying.
Or maybe you’re dealing with the guy you thought you were going to get along with, but suddenly he’s copped an attitude, and you’re struggling to figure out why.
It’s hard to know what’s going on in any man’s mind at a given time. But if you’re left wondering what’s going on and what went wrong after a first date you thought went well, you never know–it could be a sign that he’s intimidated by you.
Have you noticed these signs? Did you give the guy a second chance? Or did you move on to a man with a little more confidence?
He Seems Arrogant
And now you’re thinking, “Really? Who actually brags this much?” Nervous guys, that’s who.
He might be showing off what he’s got because he’s worried that he might not be on your level. His egomania could just be temporary until he can relax.
He’s Insulted Easily
No matter what you say, he seems to take offense. Even when you try to give him a compliment.
It’s because in his mind, you’re judging him and his response is to get defensive. And if his ego is that tender, he might be worth avoiding altogether.
He Makes Snide Comments About Whatever You Say
“You’re thinking about writing a novel? So you plan on being professionally broke [laughs].”
His comedian act is a reflection of his own insecurities — which manifest themselves in mean.
The Conversation Is At A Dead End
When you texted one another, it seemed like you had a lot in common. But now that you’re sitting face to face, he has nothing to say.
He might be struggling to find a topic of conversation that paints him in the best light. It might be time to take the convo reigns — unless you’re nervous too.
Then there’s only one thing left to do: laugh about how nervous you both are. And then order drinks.
He Has Turned All The Way Up
It’s not that he doesn’t have the manners to know that you shouldn’t do the absolute most on a first date, but he just tried to provide himself with a little liquid courage and took things too far.
Mistakes happen. Unless he does it again on a second date, which might suggest he has a different kind of problem.
He Makes Eye Contact…
This is way before a date can even happen.
He makes eye contact, but never actually comes over. Now the club lights are on, and you’re wondering what went wrong. Chances are, he wanted to connect with you, but couldn’t get up the nerve to talk to you in front of your friends.
Or He Flirts…
And you joked and smiled, and things seemed like they were going well. But he walked away awkwardly and never asked for your phone number.
Could be that he used up all of his nerve for the approach, and chickened out when it came time for the digits (maybe next time ask for his instead?).
He One Up’s You
Are you thinking about taking a trip to Japan? Well, he’s planning on motorcycling through Mongolia. Whatever you say, he has a better response.
And if it sounds like he’s lying, it’s because he just might be.
He Shuts Down When It Gets To “What Do You Do?”
He was all smiles in the beginning. But when you start talking about working on your master’s degree or anything that has to do with occupations and salaries, suddenly his smize drops down a size.
He Seems Really Nervous
It might not just be his personality: You could be the one giving him butterflies.
He’s Having Trouble Looking You In The Eye
And now you’re wondering “Is it me? Is there something on my face?” Chances are, he might just need time to get comfortable.
He Is Awk. Ward.
He might be a straight-up weirdo. Or the butterflies in his stomach may be making him say silly things (as they’ve done to us all from time to time).
He Suddenly Ends The Date
And as he’s asking for the check, you’re racking your brain trying to figure out what went wrong. You may have said something that dinged his ego, and his response was to bail.
He Tries To Intimidate You
Remember, it has everything to do with his insecurities and nothing to do with you. But you should probably politely excuse yourself from the date anyway. All of that lashing out can’t be going anywhere good.