Ways Children Of Single Parents Love Differently
Children of single parents grew up with a mom or dad who seemed to be able to do it all. And kids who grew up watching those shining examples come to expect a lot from their partners. We know what it’s like to be a superwoman, and that makes us fiercely independent. But that doesn’t mean that we’re not looking for a partner to lean on sometimes, just for something a little different.
Early on, kids of single parents learned what not to do, what they do want in a relationship and how to be happy outside of one. Different points of view on love make us all unique. And those quirks affect who we choose, how we love them and what we want out of life. That includes the good and the bad, but it’s all love in the end. Check out the interesting ways some children of single parents look at love.
We Have A Tough Outer Shell
But that’s just the outside. Once you prove you’re worthy of letting in, it’s all unconditional love on the inside.
We Believe In Show, Not Tell
We know that vows aren’t always set in stone and that actions speak much louder than words. Cute nicknames and gifts are adorable, but we need a proven track record to believe someone is really serious.
We Take Commitment Seriously
We’re slow to fall in love, but once we make a commitment we take it seriously — it’s why we don’t make them often.
Loyalty Is No. 1 In Our Book
We value team members above ballers or shot callers.
We grew up being latchkey kids, so we know how to fend for ourselves. We may take a minute to get used to being taken care of, but we’re great at understanding that even loving couples occasionally need space.
We Might Be A Little Afraid Of Commitment
We don’t always appear excited about marriage or kids. It doesn’t mean we aren’t, we just need a partner who’ll encourage us to believe that it’s possible.
We’re Problem Solvers
You don’t have to hide the struggle from us. We grew up a little quicker than the average woman or man. You can lean on us when times get tough.
We came from a woman who could do it all, and sometimes we even helped take care of her. Even if you’ve hurt us in the past, you can likely always count on us to hold it down.
We Find Emotional Stability Sexy
Even though we may have our doubts about long-term relationships sometimes, we’re looking for someone who doesn’t. And individuals from parents who’ve been married for a long time and who want the same thing are definitely at the top of our lists.
We Need Reassurance
We’ve seen plenty of evidence of how love isn’t always forever. We need extra proof that it’s the real thing, even when we’re pretty sure it is.
We Need To Be Loved Through The Struggle
Sometimes we need an individual to prove that they’ll be there for better or worse before we ever ask for help or support.
We Need Proof We Can’t Do Better By Ourselves
We were raised by single women who made the whole world happen by themselves. We know we’ll be fine solo. We need you to show us how your love makes our lives easier and better.
We Rarely Say “I Love You” First
Not because we don’t feel it, we just don’t like feeling that vulnerable.
We May Have Trouble Seeing Another Point of View
We were raised in a house with one point of view. It may take us a minute to learn how to give and take in a relationship and learn to take into account another person’s input and perspective.