Don’t Give Away The Milk Away For Free: Reasons He’s Not Committing
Once upon a time, sex was the biggest “gimme” you could give him before you got married. The social stigma was stronger if you chose not to wait until you said, “I do.” But today, where most women consider giving him, at least, a little something a few dates or months in, putting sex on the table early just isn’t a big deal to many people.
But what does make a man put commitment on the backburner? Could it be because he’s getting everything he wants? I think doing the following things for a man before he puts a ring on it could have the potential to push back the wedding timeline you were hoping to be on (And we’re talking about guys who are serious about settling down in the first place–not the commitmentphobes). But what do you think? Are there certain things we’re doing that could make a guy feel like there’s no rush in committing?
Sacrificing Your Well-Being For His
No one’s saying that you shouldn’t ever help a brother out. But when it comes to real sacrifice, the kind that puts your happiness to the side, shouldn’t you save that for someone who’s willing to commit their life to you and not just lean on you while he might just be waiting for the next best thing to come along?
Why elevate him if he hasn’t committed to growing with you?
Giving Him More Than Seven Years
This one is controversial, but it’s based on some old-school wisdom. They don’t call it the seven-year itch for nothing. It’s the length of time when most couples start to drift apart, especially when there are no vows holding them together.
Going Half On A Baby
You are going to be an excellent mother. Shouldn’t the father that thanks his lucky stars for your part in his happy family be the one who put a ring on it?
Fixing His Meals
He doesn’t have to dream about the days when he comes home from a hard days’ work to a hot meal if it’s already there on a daily basis.
It’s one way to know what you’re getting into before you take the plunge, but it’s also away to make things so much like marriage that it could feel like there’s no real need to take the next step.
Giving Financial Support
There are a lot of economic benefits to being married. But if you’re already splitting all of the bills, what’s the point in waiting for marriage to do so?
Playing Mother To His Kids
Should you play the mom in real life if you’re not the mom on paper?
Spending 100 Percent Of Your Time Together
You know, technically not moved in, but kind of. It can be hard for some men to realize your worth and how much they need you unless they’ve had a chance to miss you.
Getting A Pet Together
Whether men realize it or not, they have paternal instincts too. And getting a pet together is one way to put that itch on the backburner instead of scratching it with a real parenting gig after a trip down the aisle.
Letting Him Put His Name On You
You’re kind of taking his name forever, but probably not in the way you were hoping. Now that you’ve announced that you’re definitely not going anywhere, why rush to make it official?
And not just because it’s really frustrating when you break up with him but your family refuses to. Getting the benefit of having access to his future in-laws may just be the perk he needs to push him down the aisle.
Setting Aside The Single Life
It’s natural to want to hang up your favorite clubbing outfit and the girls’ nights out when you get booed up. But it’s also a sign to him that you’re completely off the market — whether he’s considering putting a ring on it or not.