Serious Question: Could You Date Your Ex-Husband?
My mama always told me to mind my business when it comes to married folk because married folk are crazy. She advised me never to pick sides when a married couple is at odds because they will fight like cats and dogs, trash talk one another to other people and then give each other a funny look one day, kiss, have sex, make up, and then forget why the hell they were mad at each other in the first place. Meanwhile, everyone else around them is looking around and scratching their heads while wondering what the hell just happened. Apparently, mom’s little theory applies to ex-husbands and ex-wives as well.
After a tumultuous divorce, bitter child support disputes, and a painfully uncomfortable episode of “Fix My Life” where they both admitted they “don’t like” one another, RHOA star Sheree Whitfield and her ex-husband, Bob Whitfield, have made amends. In fact, the celebrity exes are actually dating again. Some fans witnessed their interesting reunion on this past season of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” but Bob recently discussed their reconciliation with Radar Online and well, the two seem quite fond of each other these days.
According to Bob, the two reconnected last July during a birthday celebration for one of their kids, and their friendship blossomed from there.
“It started because of the birthday party,” he said. “It was kind of a festive occasion, and it was a bowling alley party. So now drinks are involved, jokes are involved, different type of mood. So then it’s like, ‘Let’s try breakfast…’ take it easy and just go little bit by little.”
Eventually, things began to heat up at bit, and the two began to casually date.
“It’s almost like you just take your time with it because we’ve been hanging around each other for a long time,” he explained. “So we know little ways about each other, so how to maneuver. It’s been pretty cool. We ain’t been playing bumper cars, smashing them up.”
He went on to say that their trip to Jamaica, which was filmed for RHOA, kind of sealed the deal for him.
“Going to Jamaica was a challenge because you know I still act a fool getting in the sunshine and the water,” Bob said. “And I got mesmerized because I haven’t seen her up close like that… I couldn’t resist but grab her booty. It was like I got a flashback and I was like, ‘You’re better than I remember.’ Oh my gosh, it’s awesome.”
Interestingly, he admits that although they’re just casually seeing each other, he’s not currently dating anyone else.
“I’ve been kind of low key,” he confessed. “It’s almost like that’s why it feels like an experiment to even me. I’m not saying I’m going to marry the girl next week. But I said, ‘Why couldn’t I build something of substance?’”
“I look at it like this, and I told her this, ‘We’ve still got those issues. S*** will flair up, but you just kind of like have to maneuver around each other,’” he continued. “It’s a delicate song and dance, so everybody takes a chance to lead.”
So yeah, they’re taking things slow, but Bob seems quite hopeful that something solid will come out of this.
“We had our differences and our problems, but I never just gave up on her,” he said. “I feel like I’ve invested a lot. We’ve invested a lot in each other, so I’m not going to just scrap my investment to her. You kept the name for a reason.”
You could have knocked me over with a feather when I heard the news because well, who really saw this coming? But perhaps this serves as a testament that the bond that’s established between husbands and wives are difficult to break—even after divorce papers are signed.
I can’t pretend that this is the first time that I’ve heard about once bitter exes reuniting after divorce. In fact, during a session of premarital counseling, my pastor warned my fiancé and I about flying off of the handle and filing for divorce because we’re hurt or angry. Apparently, he’s seen his share of couples who insisted on divorcing each other only to turn around and later remarry.
Anyway, this brings us to our Serious Question: Could you (or would you) date your ex-husband?