Do Children Really Wreak Havoc On Marriages? Tamera Mowry-Housley Weighs In
After getting engaged, I think that the most frightening thing a person has said to me was “Beware of children. They will wreak havoc on your marriage.”
Eek! I’m extremely excited about becoming a wife and equally elated about the possibility of becoming a mother some day. However, conversations like this give me pause, and unfortunately, there are statistics that seem to back up this sentiment. Studies suggest that marriage satisfaction literally plummets after couples welcome children, but since there are so many happily married parents out there, I figured that there has to be a way to protect your marriage from this so-called “baby curse” everyone is warning newlyweds about.
Over the weekend, I was able to catch up with married mom of two, Tamera Mowry-Housley, at a Disney Dreamers Academy event. In addition to sharing words of wisdom with 100 lucky high school students who were selected to participate in the academy this year, the actress had some golden nuggets to share with me as well.
“There is some truth to that,” Tamera said of the notion that kids have the potential to turn a marriage upside down. “But these are the questions that you should ask yourself. First, make sure that you have a strong foundation because you do get a little shifted and it’s all because of fatigue, or it could just be that you guys have different parental styles.”
According to Tamera, who is the proud mom of 3-year-old Ayden and 8-month-old Ariah, in addition to establishing a solid foundation, the couple must make communication a priority.
“Maybe talk about that stuff [before having children] so that when it happens, you’re not freaking out and like, ‘Wait a minute, but I thought you were fine with putting him in the corner.’ You know what I mean? And then, if you allow yourself to kind of just talk about it [beforehand], it won’t be such a shock.”