17 Questions Every Mom Should Ask Herself Today
Motherhood is quite the adventure. Some days we pat ourselves on the back because, despite what was thrown our way, we managed it—well. But some days end with tears, and we go to bed feeling like we failed in some way, hoping that tomorrow will be a better day.
When our children are young, we can hide a lot from them. Little ones have great intuition, but they aren’t quite able to always detect sadness, disappointment, or frustration if it’s well masked. But as our kids get older, they get smarter, and what we were once able to hide from them becomes more obvious. Suddenly, they become adults one day and they are the ones worrying about us. Our pain becomes their pain—our struggles their struggles. They look back on their childhood with a new sense of clarity, and they begin to understand more about the challenges that come with parenthood.
We won’t be perfect moms. It’s not possible. But I think we all want to be moms that our children admire. I think we all want our adult children to look back at their childhoods, knowing that we always did our very best for them and for us.
By asking myself these questions I have been able to really wrap my head around what my parenting strengths are and where I fall short. I found out that I fall short when it comes to showing my kids how important it is to take better care of myself, and therefore themselves. I have some serious work to do.
I hope these questions help you on your parenting journey in the same way they have helped me. And even if you don’t have the answer right now, it’s okay. The answers will come and when they do, you will know exactly what to do with them.
- Do you make managing your health a priority?
- Are you imposing your dreams upon your children?
- Are you pursuing your personal dreams and passions?
- Are you truly present when your children are with you?
- Do you take time daily to focus on your personal development?
- If you are married or in a relationship, is it happy and healthy?
- Have you worked through any unresolved issues you have with your own parents?
- Are you teaching your kids how to manage anger in a healthy way?
- Are you so focused on who your kids are not, you are missing out on who they are?
- Do you take the time to see the world through their eyes?
- Are you teaching your kids to be fearful because you let fear run your life?
- Are you able to admit to your kids when you are wrong?
- Do you know who your neighbors and your kids’ friends are?
- Do you spend one-on-one quality time with your kids?
- Are you practicing habits that make motherhood less stressful?
- Do you have a good handle on the role technology plays in your home?
- Are you asking for help in the areas where you truly need it?
I know that some of these questions may be tough to answer, but that is what makes them so powerful. As moms, we have a responsibility to ask ourselves the tough stuff. Answering these questions has made me a better mom, because every time I found myself unhappy with one of my answers, I knew I had some work to do. Ultimately, it’s not really about being a better mom—it’s about being a better person, which will undoubtedly makes us all a lot better at this mommy stuff.
Martine Foreman is a freelance writer, lifestyle blogger, speaker and coach. To follow her journey as a busy mom, wife, and honest chick from Brooklyn, NY (now living in the burbs), check out her personal blog, CandidBelle.