Terry Crews On Overcoming Addiction To Adult Videos: “I Literally Had To Go To Rehab For It”

February 24, 2016  |  

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Terry Crews is a funny guy. We know him for his comedic turn in films, his buff body in those Old Spice commercials, and those dance moves. But during the time when he was trying to build his acting career, Crews struggled with an addiction to porn. He spoke about that addiction in the past, most notably, with Wendy Williams, in 2014, and in his book, Manhood: How to Be a Better Man–or Just Live With One. But it was in three videos on his Facebook page recently, that he really recounted, in detail, how that addiction almost ruined him.

“Pornography, it really, really messed up my life in a lot of ways,” Crews said. It was a dark secret he kept for years until his wife realized what was going on and told him that she was going to leave (“My wife didn’t accept it.”). He then came to the realization that he might really have a problem.

“If day turns into night and you’re still watching, you probably got a problem. And that was me,” Crews said. “This thing was a major, major problem. I literally had to go to rehab for it.”

Crews said that before making that decision, his view of his wife, and people, in general, was changed by the movies he was incessantly watching, day in and day out.

“It changes the way you think about people,” Crews said. “People become objects. People become body parts. They become things to be used rather than people to be loved.”

Crews eventually realized he didn’t want to live the way he was any longer. So he underwent treatment for his addiction.

“I went into therapy for it,” he said. “I didn’t know how to beat it, but I couldn’t do it alone.”

The first video, titled Dirty Secret Part I, undoubtedly reached a lot of people (more than two million views), and in a second video, Crews revealed that he’d received messages from men and women who could relate to his story. Some women said their husbands had been glued to pornography, and they didn’t know what to do about it.

His message to them? Stay strong and let your partner know that you won’t stand for their obsession. Strip a man of his entitlement.

“I felt my wife owed me sex,” Crews said. “I felt like everybody owed me. So when you have a sense of entitlement, it’s a very dangerous thing.”

He continued, “But she did decide to stay with me because she knew I was repenting. She knew I was going to get help. And she knew I was sorry.”

But more than anything, Crews says that the man has to know it’s only something he can stop when he’s ready to change.

“The truth is, he has to do it,” Crews said. It’s up to him. He has to do the work.”

And first things first: He has to acknowledge his struggle with feelings of intimacy. He has to realize that he’s using porn to cope with something much deeper.

“Every time you look at pornography is a desire for intimacy,” he said. “You are trying to fight your feelings of being alone by filling it with pornography in an attempt to feel that you are with someone and you know someone. But the problem is pornography is an intimacy killer. It kills all intimacy.”

Well, it’s been almost seven years, and Crews is completely rid of his addiction. He is now sharing his story in the hope of helping others, and apparently, it’s working.

So what’s next for recovering porn addicts? According to the actor, to avoid such films and things associated with it altogether. For Internet adult film addicts and lovers, that may easier said than done.

“It’s kind of like when you got a roach in your house,” Crews said. “I promise you, there are 10,000 more roaches. You got to stamp them out … sometimes you got to take some walls down. Sometimes you got to excavate. Sometimes you got to literally raze the house and start over.”

Check out the videos for yourself below:

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