Overtipping And More Struggles Of Trying To Be A Black Ambassador
Do you ever feel like a Black ambassador? Sometimes it’s because you’re one of the few Black people in your office (or school, or book club, or church–whatever). And sometimes it’s because you know people are waiting for any possible chance to confirm their belief in certain stereotypes. At some point in many of our lives as Black men and women, there’s a particular kind of pressure where you feel like you’re supposed to be a representative for the whole entire race.
Whether it’s tipping excessively, worrying that people will label you angry for the smallest things, or politely answering the same silly question for the umpteenth time, there are a few things that we all do when we feel that it’s time to put the Black ambassador hat on.
Have you ever had one of these moments? Or do you do something different when our differences (real or imagined) are under the spotlight? Sound off in the comment section to let us know your feelings about dealing with such struggles.
Because maybe it will change what your waitress is assuming about you.
Arriving Earlier Than Everyone Else
To avoid accusations that you run on CP time.
Keeping Your Credit On Point
Not just because it’s fiscally responsible, but also because it feels good to take a stab at another stereotype.
Feeling Extra Pressure To Get Married
Thanks to gender and race stereotypes–and all those statistics people keep throwing out there.
Singing Extra Loud To Nirvana
In the hopes of assuring people that yes, you too appreciate one of the most popular rock bands of all time. A.k.a., Black people do enjoy all kinds of music.
Assuring People That Not All Black People Know One Another And Have Each Other On Speed Dial
“A girl named Keisha who also lived in Manhattan in 2012? Sorry, don’t know her.”
Getting Your Hair Touched
You try your best to smile through it.
Going Out Of Your Way Not To Get Upset
Even when other parties are very much in the wrong (and just waiting to call you an angry Black woman or man).
Not Ordering The Fried Chicken
Because this is apparently still a stereotype even though you’ve never met anyone who doesn’t love it–well, aside from vegetarians.
And Bypassing Watermelon
Also universally beloved.
Taking Diligent Notes In Black History Class
Just in case you meet someone who needs to be schooled.
Turning Your Trap Music Down
Even though your co-workers and neighbors aren’t afraid to shut down the heavy metal.
Thinking Twice About Putting Babies Before Marriage
Because it’s supposedly progressive when Angelina Jolie does it, but not when Black women do it.
Trying Not To Look Uncomfortable When They Taught Slavery In School
Because everyone in the class keeps turning around to peek at you.